Finally told my Mum

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Hayley
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Finally told my Mum

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@@9@@ Well I've done it! I've told the wonderful woman who brought me into this world 34 years ago, that her son is a crossdresser and goes all the way (makeup, wig, breastforms, the works). I also let her know that I am a member of a Crossdressers support group, albeit too far away now to be physically present at the get togethers. She said that this could be part of my lonliness, not having other crossdressers to share a common bond with.

She asked if my lovely wife knew and I told her she did, and that she accepts that this is who I really am. I also let her know that we do our best to keep it from our kids, so as not to put undue pressure on them (teenagers have a hard enough time getting to grips with their own lives, to be burdened with something of this magnitude just adds to lifes difficulties for them).

The reaction I received from her was one of nothing but pure Love and respect *^^* for my openness with her and my total honesty. Mum's total acceptance of my confession was such a welcome relief. It helps that Mum has an open mind towards peoples sexuality and life choices. Either way it felt like a great weight was lifted from my shoulders, and, Mum said that it also lifted a weight from hers. Mum admitted that she felt there was something bothering me the last time I visited, but she couldn't put her finger on the pulse, and left it to me to tell her or vent when I was ready.

I admit I was at a very low ebb when I poured my heart out to my Mum. But just being able to tell her, and not hear any form of rejection proves my love for my Mum and her love for me, without any doubt. A child may leave home and grow to be an adult, but Mum will always be there in body, soul or in one's heart.

Since the chat my wife has stated how proud she was, for taking such a big step. She has known for quite some time now that I wanted to tell Mum but have always feared doing so. She has seen in me a change for the better. And when I last spoke to Mum, she told me she has let Dad know and he just took it in his usual relaxed easy paced stride.

My whole feeling is one of finally be free from hiding within myself. Now I'm just hiding in the closet only :lol:

Love and respect to my Sisters always. Thanks for letting me ramble...
Big Hugs, Juliann "Self acceptance is not the absence of fear... but the conquest of it!"
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Thanks for sharing that with us Hayley Faith.
I am happy for you on this special occasion in your life.
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Hayley,, thats great you were able to share this side of yourself with your mom!!!
Im not sure I ever could do that myself, and it doesnt help that Im so far away from mine
Congrats!!!!
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=D> =D> =D>

Well done :)

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Hi Hayley,

CONGRATS!!!! =D> =D> =D>

I have told my mom too. I was inspired by Kathy, when she wrote on the CDDF about her telling her mom. :)

I also got a positive reaction. :) She told me that she loved me and that was the most important part. She now asks to see photos after I have a photo shoot. It turns out that I'm the shy one about sharing it with her now. :) rotf

Anyways. Enough about me. Congrats on your glorious triumph!!! I hope you inspire someone to share with their mom! :) I'm super proud of you!!
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Finally told my mum

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Hello Hayley,

It always gives me a warm inner glow to read stories like yours, I'm so happy for you that everything worked out for you. Mothers are special people, aren't they.

I always wish I had discussed my issues with my mother before she died, but although I yearned inside for her, there was always a gap between us as I never lived with her from age four until age 18, but after I got to know her from then on, I know she would have tried to understand and accept me, but alas, it'll never be. The time never seemed to be right to tell her and those many months I watched her lay in a coma, in the Melbourne Hospital, before she died, I would have done anything to turn the clock back, but time is never reusable.

I know well what you mean when you mention the feeling of finally being free within yourself and I hope everything gets better and better for you. You have the added luxery of a wife who accepts and tries to understand. My wife is an angel and although she tells me she will never be able to understand fully, she is always willing to be accepting of my needs and who I am. We have a wonderful understanding and our communication is second to none which is the cornerstone to being able to live as good a life as is possible in the circumstances.

I wish you well and once again I say, it has warmed my heart to read your story.

My Kindest Regards.

Sally.
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