Giving too much info

[Beauty]

Beauty, it's o.k. you can come out now

I think what Love's husband is doing is made up of several things. The one that we've focused on is him flashing his maleness in front of other men. That's one aspect of it. I can't really go into all the others, but I will go into the one I see it as.

I would like to know what the "others" are (only if it's not too R-rated )

Ok.. if this post sucked, please being the pummeling. My pillows are firmly secured.

No, Beauty, not at all, your post is very helpful, and I thank you

I'll have my husband read this thread later.

LOL.. First thanks for telling my I can come out.

The part about "him flashing his maleness in front of other men" all I meant was when he talked about the story that was him letting his testosterone (maleness) control his words. I didn't mean flashing, "flashing" lol!! Sorry about that.

I see what you're saying about him, but he's a guy. You're only going to get so much out of him (explaining the first time). WAIT!! Put down the gun!!! What I mean is, I know he loves you. You know he loves you. I don't think he got it last time OR that he got how serious you were. I think he got it this time though.

About the feeling funny around his men friends now, I'd say that would be normal. Though you are suffering now, trust me, your husband will forever now not trust the men he told about that. In the end he'll be the one in mental prison.

I'm glad you thought my post was helpful. Yes, I do understand where he was coming from, but it was wrong because he did indeed hurt your feelings.

One last thing. I literally laughed out loud when you told him not to throw the ball by a certain area and then he did it next to the roses. That is CLASSIC guy!!!! Sometimes we just don't get it. It sounds like a young boy or young boy logic. I bet he was like, "Sheesh! Now I can't play over here either!" versus "I tried to get away with one and she busted me." MEN! You've gotta love us?

Beauty

[Beauty]

Hi Caroline,



Are you single? I ask because of your very strong opinions. They were very gentleman like. In my limited experience in this thing called life I've noticed that the men with the most gentleman like mannerisms were usually single. Either at the time or perpetually.

Don't worry about disagreeing with me and don't apologize for thinking I'm on the other end of anything.

I kind of think of it like an Elmer Fudd and Bugs Bunny moment. Elmer Fudd is shooting down the 'wabbit hole and I'm that waskely' wabbit that's behind you saying, "What's up Doc?"

What I mean is. I don't think your opinions weren't caring, but they were just opinions. You were showing support for Love is a different way than I was. She was obviously hurt by what he said. You voiced how you felt in your first post, but in your second post you kind of said things about her hubby while defending your point. We only have so much license to talk about the love of someone else's life. I'm not sure your comments about him worded delicately enough, but that's another opinion. That's why I didn't feel like I was on the end of anything.

I missed the part about her saying it was his second time, but that wouldn't have changed my post all that much.

Anyways sunshine. Though it wasn't ultra ladylike, you were defending your point and I guess that's why it read like you were wound up to me? I kind of felt like you just said it twice and a little more aggressively the second time.

I did feel good about my post after Love said she felt helped. Don't worry, I still do think I helped (because she said so). That's why we all posted. I'm not sure it's as supportive, but it still shows how much we all care about her and her feelings. She already felt bad. I didn't think piling on her hubby was a good idea. Uh oh.. Opinion again!!!

So?

What's up Doc?

[Beauty]

Hi Darlene!!!

Thank you!!!!

I try.



My aren't you the beautiful butterfly?

Beauty

[Love (SO)]

From Love's Husband: "Why am I always in the barrel" After I told Love about Cd'ing, I wanted to tell her everything. Things are better than ever. So anyway, I own a sort of a mechanical/machine shop w/10 employees, (all guys), and you know how guys talk in that kind of enviroment, most of these guys talk about how much they are NOT getting "any", Love shows up for a surprise visit, wearing 5 inch pumps, short mini skirt, tight blouse, lots of cleavage, hair & make-up, I mean she was dressed to kill. Well, she strolls thru the shop, and comes over to me, EVERYONE saw her. (And yes, there are magazines around, you know, reading material, not filthy, playboy and such) To these men, they can only dream about these women. All of a sudden, a gorgeous blonde, right out of a magazine comes in and goes to the boss (me), knowing of course she is his wife. Anyway, we go into the office and close the door, (which never is closed). She proceeds to seduce me, "big time". Well, the door does not have a lock on it, so we were kind of keeping it closed, if you know what I mean.

The next day, one of the guys said to me that he had a question for me, but said that the door to my office was closed, with a smirk he said,"I figured you & your wife were busy, didn't you worry about someone walking in?" I replied, "No one was getting in, we were keeping the door closed"
Everyone knew what was going on

(It reminds me in the movie An officer and a gentlemen, when Richard Geer goes to the girl's work, and carries her out. Everyone was cheering, well, its the same story, but more than just getting carried out.)

Now, I tell her everything, well I told her my conversation with the employee, BANG, I'm in the barrel.

2 nights ago, our neighbor came over to drop off something. She is the mother of kids, our kids go to school and play with, (nice people & I have had a few beers with the husband). Anyway the wife, Love & myself were taking about having the "Big Talk" with our 12 year olds, and also she was telling us that her son woke up at 1 am, went to their (the parent's) room, which was locked (this was the same day the boy got the "Big Talk")
Anyway.....She said, "What does he think of his parents now, does he look around our room for the Victoria's Secret Catalog etc., while we are not at home?" So, I opened my mouth and said....."Well, maybe he may find your "toys"?

BANG, I'm in the barrel AGAIN..... (This is the reason Love posted her original thread)

Between you and me, Love is a very "Sensitive and Shy" person. Where I am the outgoing, loud, (annoying at times) fun guy, (and at times, not a bad looking chick , I might add)

Well, I felt proud that day at work. everyone looked at me different, I felt respected by my employees, and I felt pretty good also.

Basically, It's like telling someone you own a corvette, people think, yeh so? When you finally show them, they are impressed, because, they don't have a corvette. The have to drool & look at pictures.

I love my wife, she is everything to me and she is very accepting to the CDing, she is every CDer's dream come true.
I mean her no disrespect. It is just guy talk, and believe me, I have plenty of info on other people that I don't even want to think about.

Well, That's my story, enjoy. Now does this really justify me being in the barrel? Is this "Too Much Info"? LOL

By the way, I'll be sleeping alone tonite, LOL

P.S. I have learned a valuable lesson here today.
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I will never do that again
I promise

Bye for now
Love's Hubby

[Beauty]

YAY!!

If Love forgives you. I'm in!

[Amber(SO)]

Love, et al,

After reading your hubby's post, I can kind of understand his predicament. I have to say, if you seduce your hubby in his office, you set yourself up. Just my opinion. I can understand about the toys though. I would have been a little peeved. It can be very embarrassing when friends find out about the personal aspects of your sex life. Especially if they are not very close friends. All I can say is give him another inch. He may be truly trying. Men have a way of opening their mouths and inserting their foot. Especially when they work in an environment where testosterone is in abundance. A mechanic shop would definately qualify.

You have expressed your grievance, now it is up to him to SHUT THE H--- UP! Revenge is not an appropriate response. Denying him dessert makes you suffer too. All you can do now is remind him how embarrassed you feel when he makes you feel like a cheap woman. Good luck girlfriend! And keep your chin up. We all know that you are a true lady.

XOXO, Amber

[Caroline]

Hi Caroline,



Are you single? I ask because of your very strong opinions. They were very gentleman like. In my limited experience in this thing called life I've noticed that the men with the most gentleman like mannerisms were usually single. Either at the time or perpetually.

Hi Beauty,

I've been married to the same woman for over 25 years now and we're still together, as I've mentioned in some of my other, more personal, posts.

As for the opinions I expressed, they were mild, believe me; when I express strong opinions, the page is incandescent.

I'm not sure that a gentleman should express strong opinions; I think that's a kind on oxymoron.

All I was trying to do, as I'm sure you were too, is to help someone who had taken the big step of writing in to ask for it. I genuinely try never to hurt another living creature, whatever species it belongs to, and I am always diminished when I inadvertently do so; still it's a good rule to live by.

Kind regards, and take care,

Caroline.

[Beauty]

Hi Caroline,

Gotchya!

Thanks!!!

Amber, as usual, great post!!!

Beauty