Special Treatment For SO's

Cami · Post by **Cami** » Thu May 20, 2004 1:04 am

I have noticed a post or two in the SO section about how CD's treat thier Wives/SO's. This is a topic very close to my heart. The answer is, as best as you can! I think that we have been given a gift to see things from both perspectives, Mars & Venus, and we should not let it go to waste. An opportunity exists that we can be a caring husband and a loving girlfriend (so to speak) all at the same time. Now please keep in mind that I have not been dressing fully very long & am still very new to this. So please take all this as a crazy CD's ramblings. But as far as my "Femme" side goes it has been with me all my Life.

LOL My Real Sister (Who doesn't have a clue BTW) thinks that I'm an exception to the "normal guy" rule & she feels comfortable in telling me anything, and my Mother is the same way. My Wife's friends feel the same way. I often spend a great deal of time with them on the phone just chatting and helping them understand, deal & at times manipulate thier Hubbys-BF's. Helping them to understand the male point of view while still relating to thiers. I did this long before I ever came to terms with my dressing.

I feel that this is the caring side of my personality. The side that can't stand to see someone get thier feelings hurt. Or that just has to help relieve tension from a bad situation.

This, I feel, is what made me attractive to my wife. I just adore making my wife feel loved. If I can make her feel better by doing the dishs, cooking dinner (I Love that one myself really), getting her a card for no reason (BTW Always Blank cards, I always have to write how I feel. It just makes it more special) or just telling her how lucky that I am to have her in my life, then I will do it. And it's not a matter of just doing it, it's how I feel.

For those of us who are lucky enough to share this wonderful thing with our SO's then stop reading this and go tell her how you feel Right Now! Just because they accept our Femme side, don't forget to let them enjoy the Man they fell in Love. My wife said to me the other day " Do you know how many of my friends are jealous of our relationship?" That just floored me because my friends feel the same of her.

Shopping is a real special thing now and we can really have a blast now that I have gotten over some of my issues. And if you happen to share the same size with your SO then you are incredibly lucky

How cool is that!

Now most of what I have stated here is certainly not my idea. It is various stuff that I have read or been told, especially of late. But it has all been on my mind a bit lately and I just wanted to write it out

And now a Word from My SO & Loving Wife Tara
Good Evening, I thought I would take the opportunity to say a few words. I'm Tara and I'm Cami's wife. I think the best part of all of this is that I really like to shop!!! SHOPPING FOR CAMI IS A FREAKIN' BLAST

Now I get to do twice as much shopping.

I will give an example of Cami overriding her male presona. My birth control was really screwed-up when we were first married and it caused me to be VERY emotional and VERY irrational. Cami was very compassionate. She made her male side more understanding. We talked and Cami let me cry and scream and she didn't leave. She stuck it out. She did research to find the best medication for a wife that was a Freak

Cami's side has been.........I really don't know how to explain to you how many times Cami has been there for me. Cami tames her male counterpart. Gives him the yen and yang thing. I have a husband that shares with me. I have a husband that loves me more than anyone one in the world and that's a lot cuz my momma and daddy love me alot!! It would be very difficult to have this open, honest, unconditional love relationship if Cami was not around. I'm sure the male side would have killed me a long time ago. What more can I say?

Thanks for the time,
Tara

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu May 20, 2004 7:09 am

Hi Tara and Cami,

So the Tara mystery is over.

I'm glad you joined and now have unbridled access to the forum vs. the CD access our CD'd members have.

I thought what Cami said about going to tell your SO (if you aren't single) right this second, "I LOVE YOU!" was great. I began nodding my head yes immediately.

I hope some of you did that!!!

My wife knows that others are also slightly envious of our relationship because of our communication and stuff. Odd that anyone would spend that time with that instead of working on their own relationship, no?

Regardless, that was A GREAT couples post!!!

Welcome to the forum Tara and bravo for getting your own account!!!

If you read a little deeper you'll see how we've all grown to really love and respect your hubby as a member of the forum family.

Best of luck to you both. You have a wonderful relationship!!!

Beauty

Cami · Post by **Cami** » Thu May 20, 2004 9:26 am

Actually Beauty, Tara has known for almost 2 years now. She does rule. And she has read many posts over my shoulder, this is just her first time posting anythng. I just wanted her to read my post and she thought it would be a good idea to join. I'm fixing her computer so she can read and post at her will

. I have a fealing she will be a presence here. ANd TY for you wonderfull comments

Josey · Post by **Josey** » Fri May 21, 2004 7:39 am

Hi Y'all,

First to Cami - you are so very lucky to have Tara in your life, but I really don't feel I am telling you anything. You already know that.

Now, to Tara - thank you for posting that wonderful statement. I found myself with tears in my eyes staring at a picture of my wife. The tears really flowed.

And to Beauty - you know most of my feelings and I agree with you. I turned to my wife's picture and said, "I love you"

, way before I ever got to read your post.

Thank you so much for reminding me about how wonderful a relationship between two people can be no matter how they're dressed. Time to go wipe my eyes and blow my nose.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri May 21, 2004 8:10 am

Thanks, Tara and Cami,
You got me cryin --- again! Its a great "Love Story" I feel so fortunate just to know you two! I hope that you will continue to share with us and I will bet you can help a lot of our sisters out there who are struggling with what you two have been able to ovecome. God Bless you and just " keep it commin!!!!"
Love,
Deborah

Cami · Post by **Cami** » Sat May 22, 2004 11:28 am

Thank you both. Tara will be posting a bit more as soon as I get her computer running. And you words were very kind. I just wanted to remind people that sometimes we forget toThank the ones that really tollerate alot.