Progress Towards Greater CD Acceptance ... or Not?

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Thu May 20, 2004 4:09 pm

Hi Deborah--
What I was talking about was other people's view of it, not the CD herself. I didn't mean that you, the CD, should not feel OK about dressing at home! As long as our CDing isn't controlling us, it's an important part of our lives, and needs to be expressed.

I was saying that the general public does not accept dressing at home, and does not feel that's OK. If they did feel it was OK, (even sometimes,)then we wouldn't face all this secrecy and fear around being found out.

There doesn't seem to be a lot of middle ground to CDing. Since a lot of the public thinks that CDing is about sex, it doesn't get talked about for that reason, too. We're not supposed to talk about our private lives in public.

I knew that I was going to need to talk about this part of my life, and I had no SO to confide in. So going out in public was hard, but it was the only way I knew how to insure I would talk about Anita. I already saw how painful it was when I couldn't talk about her, before coming out.

So please don't misunderstand me, Deborah. There's no way that I'm saying that we shouldn't feel OK about ourselves. The more time goes by, the more I see how important it is for all of us to express this part of ourselves, in whatever way we can afford to. And don't think that I'm saying that you or anyone else should accept society's disapproval. We all know it's there, but we don't have to let it dictate to us!
Anita

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri May 21, 2004 4:24 pm

Anita, Thanks, you are a real sweetheart! Yes we are on the same page, paragraph and sentence. Again, all I can say is :I am who I am and dat's all dat I am I'm me!!!!Oh and Deborah!
Love ya,
Deborah

Kersten Lee · Post by **Kersten Lee** » Fri May 21, 2004 9:27 pm

All of you have said things important to me. The mix of fem and man
is still a stuggle. At a period in my therapy I was dressing and taking
unnecessary risks too often. My therapist pointed this out to me, of course.
Crossdressing is wonderful if not the only reason for living or done at the
betrayal of all others in our lives.

Having my toes polished has especially kept me in touch with my better
self even if it does sound nuts. I worried and lost sleep for so many years at what would happen if someone did recognize me. Lately I have decided
to let fate take control. That is probably stupid also. I know I could loose
everything. How much fun would dressing be to me then.

My therapist asked me Monday last week how I picked my name. I know there was a thread like that here, but I never responded. I couldn't.
I told her the truth, like always. How can she help if I lie. But lieing
isn't in my nature to my great loss at times. When I first found CDDF
a year ago last feb. I picked Kersten and added my middle name so there
wouldn't be confusion over names. I picked Kersten at the time because
I truly believed I was "cursed". She said that is so sad, Kersten is a
beautiful name and can still be for you. I had told her earlier I wish now
I had picked a beautiful name. I look at my chosen name differently now.
The big question is still, can I love myself?

Sorry for all this. This discussion opened a part of me. I have met so
many wonderful woman while shopping dressed and not, this past 7,8
months. Kimberly at MN being what we all want in our wives, friends and
society in general. Respect, kindness, and understanding. We only need
look at the current political and religious climate to know acceptance
and equal treatment under the law is yet a dream for us.

Hugs everyone,
Kersten Lee

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri May 21, 2004 9:54 pm

Kersten,
You done good girl!! It is great reading what my sisters continue to discover about themselves and it elps me to open other doors that I either did not know were there of was afraid or just did not have a key. You girls have not only shown me new doors, but provided me keys to open them and explore.
Kersten just keep kicking down those doors honey, you are OK!
Love,
Deborah

Kersten Lee · Post by **Kersten Lee** » Sat May 22, 2004 4:56 am

Thank You Deborah

Kersten

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat May 22, 2004 8:05 am

Caroline: The one think that I wonder about is, Most true people that go thru the change have a long time as a CD first. So why didnt the law protect them under the state as one that are out. That Confuses me. Not this is not to say that I or any others are going to go thru the change. That is the farthest thing from my mind and will never happen but in looking at all the web sites that I have for info on how to understand the why's, everyone one states that fact. In most of them it is stated in different ways, even the ones that talk about counseling for it one of the first questions is "How long have you been CDing"

Sorry about the rambling I have a hard time understanding the law anyway and people most of the time

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat May 22, 2004 5:52 pm

Gelinda, honey have you read "Jung's Anima Theory and How it Relates to Crossdressing"?
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepage ... /anima.htm
This has given me so much insight into Deborah and explaining the gift that we as CD'ers have. Between that and our sisters here, my world is a beautiful place!
Love,
Deborah

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat May 22, 2004 6:21 pm

Thanks Deb I have printed it out for analyze at my leisure. I read a bunch on line and decided to print it for further study. Thanks a Million. Gee