Preoccupation as a CD (Sally 2 Erica)

[Sally]

Hello Erica,

Obviously you would know your wife better than anyone else, but I'd venture to agree that any promise made between a husband and wife can usually be re-negotiated, especially if the love is strong between both then there is always hope, afterall there are very few things in life which are immutable, circumstances change with time.

You must always bear in mind that if your wife isn't aware of the turmoil going on inside you then she can't possibly help you in any way. I would suggest that in the main women build bridges, they don't burn them and if there is something which is effecting your personal life and your work ethic then it's your responsibility to make the moves required to correct the situation, because if you go along getting more stressed out, the problem will only compound to where it will effect your home life as well as your work place.

It all gets back to comunication, because if we can't communicate with our loved ones then who can we communicate with. They may not necessarily wholeheartedly agree with us, but as I said, if there is love there then it is always possible to find a balance which is acceptable to both parties, so that there is a minimum of disruption and stress in each others life.

I'm sure if you approach your wife in the right way about how your life is being effected and just tell her the plain simple truth, that you are in emotional pain and you need to talk to her about it, and you acknowledge you are aware of her current feelings, then you both can begin the process of finding common ground. The main thing is not to harrass her or force her if she doesn't want to hear about it or talk about it in the first inst, but if you continue to make gentle suggestions to her then there is every possibility that in her own time she will come to face the problem with you.

I grant you that it can be a difficult time but what sometimes seems hopeless often surprises us. As Mark Twain once said, "A thing long expected often takes the form of the unexpected when at last it comes."

I wish you well.

Sally.

[Sally]

OOPS A DAISY, sorry Elizabeth, the last message was meant to be posted in Erica's pre-occupation as a CD thread.

Beauty will shift it for me when she pops up, I'm sure.

Sally