Which way would you prefer to look?

[Love (SO)]

Hi, Curly,

Thank you Stef and CJ for the boy mode pics!

Yes, Thank you!......

[I don't think I saw Stef's photo in male mode, did I miss it?]

Please someone tell me you know what I'm saying here!

I understand what your saying, Curly

I called him over to show him the pics just to say 'look, these CDers ARE men like you!' Please someone tell me you know what I'm saying here!

I just showed my husband last night also.




Thank You all for the great photos

[Curly(SO)]

Hi Love,

If you click on the link in Stef's post and hover the mouse over the pics you will see! I'm glad you knew what I was talking about

Curly(SO)

[Beauty]

Hi Curly,

I can't find it either.

Beauty

[Curly(SO)]

http://laceyleigh.com/Myth.html This is from Stef's post on 1st page of this thread.
The pictures change when you hover the mouse over them..well they did when I went on there!

[Barbara]

The original poll question asked whether we ourselves like our male look or our female look better (or the two equally). All I know is, so many people have told me I look better en femme. To this day I don't know whether I should be happy about that.

[Stef]

Thank you Stef and CJ for the boy mode pics! This is something that I've had some difficulty with, whenever I see pics of CDs enfemme, I find it hard to relate them as being like my husband, purely because I am only seeing the enfemme side, I can't picture you as men, and of course I see Ed as 'Man' most of the time! Aargh, I'm trying to make sense here, but not doing a very good job!

Hi Curly!

You make perfect sense I understand completely.

Most people have a hard time realizing the both people are still me. I have found that people who know me both ways interact differently depending upon how I'm dressed. The typical reaction I get from people who know me in boy mode the first time they see me in femme mode is a nervous uncontrollable laughter. At first it bothered me but now that I've had it happen so many times I just chalk it up to being a typical reaction.

Hugs,
Stef

[Virginia]

Wow, Curly! It is very difficult for me at least to get my arms around what you are asking! I can say that I may be just a little bit prejudice, but Deborah is one good looking woman. My SO does not want to meet Deborah! Our relationship in this area is like the "don't ask don't tell." I would venture to say that Ed has probably not reached the stage of accepting his "presentation" and there is nothing wrong with that. Some CD'ers reach certain stages and that is their comfort level and there they stay. If I could be you, I guess what I would be looking for is the feminine personality coming out. Does he show more empaty, love, concern, gentleness, or other characteristics associated with the female personna. Have his likes and dislikes changed, like is he still a "hunter" or does he show signs of becomming a "gatherer?" I guess at my stage, dressing is secondary to developing Deborah's personality and sharing that with those I come in contact with. This is what I and I guess others have a problem understanding about our SO's. I would think that the dressing would not be as big an issue as it appearantly is, what I would hope that the SO's would seek to see is that a true CD'er personality improvements as this gift begins to manifest itself in the form of feminine characteristics of love, empathy, gentleness, understanding, etc.
Don't know if this helped (helped me - sorry 'bout that) but God Bless and thanks for being there for all of us.
Love,
Deborah
PS: Ed you got a great lady there, my friend!

[CJ]

Hi all,

Curly,

I totally understand what you mean--you make perfect sense. What we have on this board is, in some ways, the reverse situation of our 3D lives; here, there are many who can't really see us "completely" as men for lack of boy mode photos while, in our everyday lives, there are many who can't really understand what we mean when we say we're crossdressers until we actually show them photos of ourselves en femme.

Glad you enjoy the pix, and thanks for the compliments. You're all on the money concerning Stef's photos, too. They're gorgeous (she's gorgeous!) and the "mouse-hover instant sex change" is a blast. Thanks, Stef.

Love,
CJ

[Bonnie]

Hi All, Well, gotta say I think I look better as a woman. Twenty years ago the answer might have been different. Too many years in the sun, receding hairline,(Thanks Dad!) etc. have made it where a wig and a little makeup made it pretty easy to make the decision.
Hugs to all, Bonnie

[Merinda]

Interesting question Darlene ,

Lets take a peek at me as a man -

1 body the size of a 14 year old
2 big lips and teeth
3 dead boring personality
4 dont fit into mens clothing properly
5 bottom sticks out like girl on gym horse
6 wrists as small as young teenager
7 dont fit stereotype mens interests
8 women see me as invisable or from another planet
9 have few male friends
10 dont get on with people socially

I hold the Australian title for more knockbacks from the opposite sex than anyone I know and thats at the point of asking them on a date nothing more.
I have been laughted at , insulted , sworn at , and that sometimes happened even before I even spoke.
Over a period of ten years I was just a joke for everyone to laugh at until meeting my wife.

As Merinda I am confident , high self esteemed , spirit is free of all past bad experiences , feel good in front of the camera and feel full of life .
The grey is replaced by a vibrant rainbow of colour and opportunity .

I think that indicates choice


lots of love to you Darlene

[Beauty]

Hi again Merinda,

If you replace the height thing, I'm right with you. The only other thing was I do love one sport. That was pretty much it though. Otherwise our growing up and living as an adult (dealing with society) is very close.

Beauty

[Curly(SO)]

I think I'm kind of confused still! I know Ed likes his 'male' look, we've talked about this as he has very masculine looking tattoos on his arms, legs and back, which he likes and says wasn't done as a way of denying his femme side.
As for the personality side of things, he most definitely has a warm, caring nature. He is the most caring, kind man I have ever met, and found this to be such an intriguing contradiction to the very male image he presents. (I wasn't told of the CDing till three years after we met). This was why I was so attracted to him when we first met.
I think Ed has sort of been in denial about being a CDer, although he has been doing it since childhood, he has only recently been able to say to himself that he is one.
Ed has only just started feeling comfortable enough to say he'd like to dress, without me suggesting it first, he is afraid of pushing it too much. I think he would like to do the full enfemme look, we are taking little baby steps towards it! He loves it when I do his makeup and pluck his eyebrows (not the actual process, I am a bit brutal!). We have talked about getting a wig, that is the next step. I know he will look great, I will let you know how we get on. My hunch is that he will like both looks equally.
Curly(SO)

[CJ]

Hi all,

Curly,

Yes, he may like both looks equally. The question, though, is, will you? If I'm reading some of the SOs rightly, it's often a shock for them when they first see their DH as a whole package, fully en femme. Are you prepared?

Love,
CJ

[Beauty]

Hi Curly,

That's really very cool about you plucking his eyebrows and helping him take the key phrase "baby steps" to where you are both comfy.

I suggest slowly vs. all at once. Even the CD'r is confused. I can't imagine how an SO would be able to handle that all at once.

Also thanks for explaining about the website. I was just so in awe of Stef's lovely visage I never thought to cover it with a mouse.

Curly, you're truly a GREAT WIFE!!!!!

Beauty

[Curly(SO)]

Thanks for your replies...Hmm am I prepared?....Yeah! If I'm honest, I'm worrying about the wig, up till now, he's been a geezer in a dress, but the wig is going to totally transform him, I know.
Beauty, you are so right about the baby steps, it really has worked for us taking things this slow.
Anyway,I don't want to hijack this thread so I shall start another about this in the appropriate section!

Love,
Curly