So confused about false add ons to body and image ?????

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Danielle La Belle
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Post by Danielle La Belle »

Well I must say, I feel like I am at the high school prom. Everyone is just "dancing" around the underlying issues.

I have been told repeatedly that the "male" of the species is attracted to the breasts of the "female" Whereas, the "female" is not necessarily attracted to the genitalia on a male. That while this feature is mechanically necessary and appreicated, the female of the species has a rather different point of view in this regard.

For this I cannot say of course in that respect. I have been rather specific in a classroom environment and gotten some pretty different answers on a privately completed question/answer sheet. The class being about 70/30 female/male and the age range from 24 - 61. The majority took the class for experience in "Gender Studies and Social Organization."

It is rather interesting to note that in many group studies, people will say one thing and write another on the same question when it comes to sexuality. So, as Anita pointed out, she can dress down physically and still feel complete. Meaning perhaps she has transistioned away from excessive dress and physical needs for superior breast enlargement to feel comfortable as any woman might feel with her given assets in any particular fashion. After all, not every woman in the "A" cup category feels a need to run out and get breast implants.

I think that we avoid the issue of "being comfortable" with modest improvements that do not attract some form of attention. After all, we like to receive compliments and perhaps we have mis-understood the meaning. Perhaps, dressing as a lady of means and value is not what some want.

I think this forum has proven that if anything, we are a diverse lot in the T* community and that in itself is worth study and self-examination. "The unexamined life is not worth living." ...Socrates (470 - 399 BC)...
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Re: So confused about false add ons to body and image ?????

Post by Penny T »

Bernice Asked:

"Am I trying to have my cake and eat it too? Is this fair - for me to want to experience the best of both worlds? If I don't want to undergo the surgery - is it fair for me to experience the thrill and the pleasures of the other side of the fence? Should I not have to pay my dues somehow - before I am entitled to do this?"

The simple answer is that you can do as you please! There's no prerequisite to experience pain and suffering in order to experience something. Wanting to have it 'both ways' is to be human; knowing it usually cannot be like that is to be mature.

"What gives me the right to split the fence and enjoy both sides at will?"

You give yourself that right, or rather should I say that we all have that right and opportunity; it's just up to us to take it. You are a free spirit, nobody controls you except yourself. Maturity occurs at the point where you realize this and also realize that there are consequenses to your choices. That dilema continues throughout life. And CD'ing brings out the worst example of this conundrum that I know of. I say rid yourself of any guilt about who you are and what you want or need, then figure out how you are going to integrate this into a succesful life in the present world. And always be ready for the consequenses of your choices, for they may show up when you don't want them to!

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Post by Danielle La Belle »

I agree with Penny T. Consequences, actions and their related results. I take ownership of my actions. If they lead to trouble, I am the one that got me there and I am the one that will have to get me out of it. :)

You leave home one morning and at the corner of main and 3rd avenue, you and another driver make bumber to bumber contact. Neither of you knew earlier that morning as you drove out of the driveway that you would be meeting in such a fashion. We call this an accident providing that neither broke the law before hand such as running a red light, or stop sign, then having the collision. NO FAULT!

You dress to the [nines], and then go into a well known sports bar during "Super Bowl" Sunday. Ah, how about [SUICIDE]! You must take ownership for your actions.

You dress everyday and do not go to work that week. On Friday, there is no paycheck, no loaf of bread (if you work for yourself), you must take ownership for your behavior and the results that it begot you. " I have chosen that behavior before so I speak with experience."

OWNERSHIP! Good, bad or indifferent. People are not doing things to us for the most part, the things that we see this way are only events. We put ourselves into those events and call it LIFE. After all, we would not be living if we were to see everything as being "done to us." We participate in life for the experience, the joy and the tears, the excitement, the love, we do it as long as we are breathing.

If you find this not in tune with your present way of thinking, perhaps you are in denial or even suffering from a maladay as mild depression as I sometimes have been effected by. It should pass the same day. If not, then a medical consult may be in order for those that find life is getting them down. Everyone that is honest has at some time or another been in this boat. Steer yourself back to shore with some help!

OWNERSHIP! I am the Captain of my ship and I choose to steer the course that I have from my own decisions after observing my options. WOW! Yikes! There I go again!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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