What was your first encounter of a crossdresser ?

[Merinda]

Hi sisters ,

The first time I encountered a crossdressed person was when I was 10 or close to my 11th birthday.
I was on holiday on Queenslands Gold Coast with my parents , we had taken a tour on a bus with about 40 people to the Buderim ginger factory and a jasper farm , the tour stopped at other places that I cant remember.
We stopped at a glasshouse and lined up at the door , then a lady from the residence house came down the stairs and said good morning in a male voice.
She opened the glasshouse and introduced herself as Rose, ( cannot recall her real name so I'll call her Rose / Frank ).
She spoke about the exhibit in lenght and all I could think of was the skipper playing the part of Gilligans mother , I was sure this person was a man but I didn't say anything.
As we were walking back to the bus my father said he was sure it was a man dressed as a woman , we then boarded the bus and continued the tour .
After we were back on the road the bus driver said he had something to share with us , he told us Rose was a man called frank but nobody was supprised , he told us that Frank was married to lady by the name of Rose whom he loved very much , sadly Rose died and Frank couldn't cope with being without her .
The driver then explained that Frank started to wear Roses clothes in order to feel close to her , he took on Roses name as well , Frank can continue life feeling Rose is always within him.
Nobody said a bad word in the bus , we all felt for Frank.

Most Australians are excepting people and this was an example of that from back in the dark ages of 1971 , I often wonder if Frank is still around.

[Lorna]

The year was 1985. I was 13.

I was with my older sister who was dragging me all over the mall with her while she was looking at clothes and shoes. We walked into one shoe store and I had to do a double take at a very large muscular woman trying on shoes and boots. She had Tina Turner style hair, was dressed in a white top, a black leather skirt, black pantyhose and black pumps. She was trying on some black boots.

From where I stood I could make the faintest traces of facial stubble. I didn't want to make any assumptions because my cousin Maggie had a mustache.

Then the voice confirmed my suspicions. My initial thoughts were "Wow... that's brave!" I was in envy of that CD for the rest of the day.

[CJ]

Hi all,

Age 5.

In the bathroom mirror.

Seriously, Merinda, I don't recall. Probably during my first forays in Montreal's Gay Village when I was a teenager.

Love,
CJ

[Alexandra]

such a good question and I have no answer. I knew of some "effeminate" kids who were actually gay and dressed the part sometimes (sort of for fun), but the first "crossdresser", I don't remember. Perhaps if she had Tina Turner hair (like Lorna experienced), I would have remembered!

[Rebecca]

Hello folksies,

A strange one this. I was about 19 yrs old, at art college and living in a bedsit in an attic. Strumming my guitar and singing away to myself, I heard a knock on the door. This woman stood there and said "sorry to be so forward, but I have been visiting a friend and heard you playing your guitar. I have been listening for a while and love your songs"
"Would you like a cup of tea" I asked.
We sat and talked music, art etc for quite a while. She said her name was Zul. Now, at the time I was quite innocent to a lot of things, and put her unusual physique down to whatever, not nice to sit and wonder about someone. Eventually, she said she had to go home as it was quite late and would I walk her home.
"Yer, no problem," It's been a nice evening, someone to talk with, etc.
On the way home she asked if she could hold my hand, "Yes," I said " but bear in mind I do have a girlfriend" She said how she liked my songs, thought I was a nice person, etc. With compliments like that, I was quite happy.
She lived with a few other people in a flat, and when we got there, I sat on the sofa. She sat next to me and I began to wonder why everyone was giving Me and Zul sideways glances. I thought something's not right here. Suddenly the lights went off and someone said a fuse had blown, everyone laughed, and I thought this is some sort of wind-up. The lights went back on and Zul looked really uncomfortable and embarrased. So I said I had better get going.
She was nearly in tears when I left and asked if I would give her a kiss goodnight. Of course I would, although the penny had started to drop, it had been a nice night and she needed to know everything was ok. I give her a polite kiss and said goodnight.
I enquired about Zul to other people and all I heard was that she had been upset and left town the next day.
My life is full of strange stories, I sometimes wonder whatever did happen to Zul ?

Love to all
Rebecca xxx

[Beauty]

Great thread Merinda!!!

I was working in a mall and a VERY BRAVE CD'r walked past me and I thought, "Was that what I thought it was!!!!????!!!!!" (a man dressed as a woman)? I wanted to chase her down, but then I thought how I'd feel if I were her.

So I let her walk on. She was very well dressed and I wished I would see her again, but I never did.

That was my first experience seeing a CD'r in the flesh.

btw.. Rebecca.. was Zul transgendered? If you said if she was, I couldn't tell.

Again Merinda, great thread!!!!

Beauty

[Rebecca]

Hi Beauty,

Was Zul transgendered ? It's a question I often wondered myself, my memories of that time are influenced by my innocence. When I look at the facts logically, the deep sultry voice, big build etc, I come up 100% yes. At the time I thought, don't think about it, this person sees herself as a woman, that's fine by me. The question disappeared before I really asked it of myself. Ahh, those sweet innocent times

Love
Rebecca xxx

[Merinda]

Rebecca ,

That was a lovely thread , I enjoyed reading it .

Zul taking you by the hand reminded me of "Lola " the song by the Kinks.

[Rebecca]

Hi merinda,

I always liked the kinks, waterloo sunset... Ahh

Please excuse me , I am very drunk... as long as I gaze on... waterloo sunset

Love Rebecca xxx

[Bernice]

This may seem unbelievably naive for someone over 50, but I am not positive I have ever encountered another CD crossdressed in person.

Excepting a junior high school teacher who threw on a dress for the student teacher basketball game, and excluding a Scottish higlander event, only twice have I encountered men in public, wearing skirts. Both had significant facial hair.

The first, about six years ago, was outside a D.A.V. store where I had just made a CD purchase. He made no attempt at all to pass, and seemed to be making some kind of political statement. He was clearly loitering, on a very hot day. His short straight skirt and flat sandals were the only feminine attire he had on. He hadn't even shaved his legs. I confess was uncomfortable.

The second, about four years ago, on the Sandia Crest cable car in Albuquerque NM, was wearing a floor length drab solid color skirt with dark knit crew socks and men's Birkenstock sandals. Again, no attempt to pass, no "bosoms" if you will. Perhaps also this individual was making some other kind of statement, perhaps legitimately and courageously trying to start a fashion trend.

Then again, Kansas is probably not a good place to go hunting for crossdressers. We lay low, and mostly stay quietly out of sight.

A good friend on this forum is planning to visit me in a month or two, for a photo shoot. I look forward to this.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Stef]

My first real experience came when I was 21. I need to give some background before I tell the story.

There was a bar that was less than a block from where I live in small town TN that I practically lived at. It was owned by a lesbian couple and after about 10 pm it would basically become a lesbian bar. All the girls who hung out there had become great friends and started just being themselves if I were the only guy there. This was before I even would admit the existence of Stef to myself much less anyone else so my "radar" was non existant at the time.

Ok, back to the story. I was there one night and across the bar from me sat the most beautiful red head I had ever seen, I mean she was drop dead gorgeous! We made eye contact a couple of times but she was so far out of my league that I didn't think anything of it til she motioned for me to sit next to her. After I made my way over to her and we started talking I found her to be fun to talk to, she had a way of simply touching me that sent my hormones though the roof! We made our way to a corner table in the back and continued our conversation and made out a little. One of the ladies who owned the bar called me up to the cash register saying she needed to settle my tab I had been paying cash all night so I thought she was confused and went to explain it to her. That was when she told me "That girl you are with is not really a girl" I was floored and told her she was wrong and that was when all the other girls came up to me and agreed with the owner. I was floored and it caused alot of repressed feelings to come flooding out. I was physically sick from all the emotions flowing in me. They told me to go back and act like nothing was said. After some urging I made me way back to the table. Tammy asked me what was wrong to which I gave a quick "nothing!" She put two and two together and said she was going to go. I simply said "Bye" As she was making her way to the door my friends confronted her about trying to pick me up and a rather loud argument ensued. I just sat there in disbelief and let it happen, I was numb and scared and had so much going through my mind I doubt I have ever been as confused as I was that night. Enventually she left and my friends came over to check on me saying they were sorry they should have said something much sooner but they thought it was funny until they saw how I took it.

There is more to this story but I have bored you all enough!

Hugs,
Stef

[Merinda]

Stef,

your story wasn't boring at all it was sad in a way , the girl should have come clean with you from the start rather than building you up for a fall.

Stef, feel free to tell us the rest if you want.

[Stef]

Thanks Miranda!

I'd be happy to share the rest of the story with you! Thanks for asking!

After I got home that night my phone started ringing and when I answered I realized it was Tammy on the other end. We had exchanged numbers earlier that night. She started to let me have it for letting the girls treat her the way they did, well I in turn let her have it for deceiving me the way she did. She stopped me and asked how did I deceive her I told her cause she was a man acting like a woman and had tried to pick me up. She swore to me that she was 100% woman, when I said that I had heard different she said "how did they hear about that" That's when I stopped her and asked what she was talking about. She then went on to tell me that she was 100% woman now but that she was, in fact, born a man. She had completed SRS and had been a complete woman for almost 6 years. I had a person that could possibly answer all my questions and so I started asking her about why she did it, what all she had to go through to get to where she was etc etc etc. She answered them all and then she asked me if I had the same feelings. I asked her why she would think such a thing to which she said that only someone who felt the same way would ask the questions I had asked. I bet we talked for 3 hrs that night and it gave me an entirely new perspective on things. That was the only night we talked and it was 10 years before I saw her again but one day I was at a Pride Rally as Stef and saw her so I walked up to her and re-introduced myself. The look on her face was priceless when she realized who I was. We had a good laugh over the whole thing.

Hugs,
Stef

[Loretta Ann]

Hey Stef,

That was one of the most interesting reads I have read. Thanks for sharing that with us

[Rebecca]

Hi Stef,

What a story, It's so nice when all ends well. I was dreading getting to the end and it leaving a bad taste, instead it was like... Yeah

Love
Rebecca xxx