All hell just broke loose

[CJ]

Love,
CJ

[Beauty]

My son and I talked yesterday. I just said to hell with this silent stuff and walked up to him to talk to him about tuning his carburetor. He has a '72 Mustang Mach 1 that hasn't been runnung well lately and it's killing him. He thought there was nothing I could do so he didn't ask for my help. So I decided to offer it and told him we could work on it next weekend. The conversation was short but pleasant.

Today we had casual encounters and he seems a little better. He and my wife talked and he said he's okay just as long as he doesn't ever see me in a dress. When my wife told me this I asked her if a skirt would be okay She told him not to worry because even she doesn't see me dressed. I don't force it on anyone.

Things may never be the same but I believe in time the new path we are on will actually be better than the old one. This has been such a relief to no longer have to hide this from anyone in my immediate family. I find myself spending more time with them and enjoying it so much. I also have this huge burden off my shoulders and it's so much easier to get through the day. I am happier than I have ever been in my life. It's been tough but I can see light at the end of the forest.

Luv y'all,
Julie

Hi Julie,

Thank you for the update. It's no surprise that your wonderful parenting is paying off. What I mean is your son loves you. He's showing it even though maybe his hormones don't feel like he should. That's only done by a great upbringing.

Good for you and thank you so much for sharing this with us.

It means a lot to me, so I know it must to others too. (even those inquisitive lurkers)

Beauty

[Loretta Ann]

Hi Julie,

You stated;
Things may never be the same but I believe in time the new path we are on will actually be better than the old one.

I believe you will find that to be true. Thanks for sharing that with us.

[Anita]

H Julie--
I'm so glad to hear this update. I do indeed believe the new life will be better, overall.
A

[Julie M.]

First I wanted to thank everyone for their caring and support. You were the only ones who really seemed to care when I was going through the worst of it.

My son and I seem to be getting along much better now. He and I talk almost as much as before although he seems a little distant still but that's expected. While things were improving with him out of nowhere my wife suddenly has a huge problem with it. I was sort of taken aback by her sudden hostility. For two days I felt like she was a totally different person. I attributed it to her defending my son, her baby boy. I tried to talk to her but she wouldn't listen. She called me a liar, said she didn't trust me and said we needed counseling or it would be over. Never have I seen this in her. When I asked what I had done to breach her trust or to be called a liar she didn't answer. I thought I was never going to get out of hell.

Then yesterday I asked if we were ever going to have a civil conversation. She was still irritated but we managed to talk. She said all this was too much for her. My son finding out, me keeping my body shaved and she feared I was going to have a sex change. My wife is a great worrier. Anyway we talked some more and I tried to reassure I had no plans whatsoever to have a sex change. She's very insecure about this. She logics if I like to dress like a woman I must want to be one. I told her crossdressing defies logic and thinking about it too much will drive you insane.

Today I brought home some roses. She later told me the reason she got so upset is because she loves me so much.

This has to be one of the most turbulent times ever in my life. It's been a roller coaster ride inside the tilt-a-whirl during a hurricane on the Fourth of July! WHEW!

Anyway, I see light at the end of the tunnel. Tomorrow I see a therapist for the first time in 30 years. She's CD friendly. After my session we will be discussing her seeing my wife (and me). My wife says she needs someone to talk to outside the family. I'll keep you posted as to how it goes. Thanks again.

Love,
Julie

[Beauty]

Julie,

You're not only an amazing CD'r! You are an amazing father, husband and friend.

OMG! You got her roses, you kept coming back to talk to her, you didn't turn it around against her and you remained who you were before all of this happened. You are so wonderful!

I believe your wife when she says she loves you and that's why she's like this right now.

I think the way you're handling this is golden!!! If I were to go through the same thing I'd use this as a guide to how to handle this right.

I'm so incredibly proud and awed by everything you've done.

Beauty

[CJ]

Hi all,

Hats off to you, Julie!

I wish you strength, courage, and peace. I feel for your whole family.

Love,
CJ

[Jessie]

Good luck with everything. I think what you did is great!

Jessie