What an interesting day

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Wed Aug 04, 2004 4:48 pm

Day before yesterday my wife said she was leaving to go to a womans shelter and taking my oldest daughter with her. This was an obvious lie, I knew she was going to her boyfriends house. But she insisted that her boyfriend would not let her move in, or she would have done it long before.

So I let her take the Mustang which we already agreed I would keep. She returned the next morning, and I confronter her about going to her boyfriends house with my car. Something I told her I was not going to permit.

To make a long story short, she almost broke my finger trying to get the keys out of my hand, at which time I removed her hand from mine. She called the cops and said I attacked her, and tried to have me arrested. My kids stood up for me, the cops left, and she finally left to her boyfriends house in the Blazer, with my youngest son.

So yesterday was our first day without her, and I have to say that it was a really good day. All the tension is gone now, the breakup is finally over, and now we can all move on. I know this is not the end of the heartache, but it is the end of false pretense. It is all in the open now. I have filed for divorce, and it would seem everyone is very comfortable with thier new situations.

Yesterday I went to get a bag of ice at a nearby gas station that I visit with frequency and while at the counter dressed in my usual adrogenous way the girl at the counter asked me if I played in a rock band. I told her that I used to. Then all of the sudden it just came out of my mouth. I said "actually I am a crossdresser". She got a big smile on her face and said "that is so cool" I then proceded to selfconciously tell her that I was not gay.

Then the funniest thing happened. She said "I would really like to see you dressed, would you come in when you are dressed sometime?" I smiled and had to think for a minute as I have never been out fully dressed. And I said "Yes, I will do that, sometime".She again told me how neat it would be to see me fully dressed. And the whole thing happened with 3-4 people in line behind me.

All I can say is, What an interesting day.

I love you all,
Elizabeth

Rebecca · Post by **Rebecca** » Wed Aug 04, 2004 5:38 pm

Wow, Elizabeth,

One thing for sure, your'e posts are never predictable.

I am pleased that the split is finally under way, there is nothing worse than the hurt and resentment while under the same roof, having made the decision to split. From the sound of it, it could have only gotton worse.

I know zippo about legal stuff and divorces ( mine was kept well under control ), and please know I am not trying to interfere with anything, but when you talk to your solicitor about the divorce, do you tell them everything? I don't want to meddle in what I don't know, but from what you have said, it may be wise. A small alarm bell is ringing and I don't know why. I feel from what you say that she has a lot of bitter resentment for whatever reasons, If she is happy with her boyfriend, then why the outbursts ? I know it takes two to tango, it's just things sound strained to say the least. As I say, I could be totally off whack here, my sleep patterns are all to cock, and sometimes I ramble a bit,.. Ramble a bit... Ramble ramble ramble.....off I go again, I do my own head in sometimes.
Shut up Rebecca, ....OK.
Right, I'm just a little concerned, that's all...does she visit this site ?

As for the juicy bit, If that had happened to me in the gas station I would be on

What a great moment, and to be backed up by everyone, is something really cool

Love you too, Elizabeth
Rebecca xxx

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Wed Aug 04, 2004 6:00 pm

This is so awesome, Elizabeth! See what is happening now?

All of the pressure, the aggravation, the headaches of your previous situation are finally behind you. I bet you feel a tremendous weight lifted off of your shoulders. Now that you have this new found freedom and confidence, I forsee a lot of growth for Elizabeth in the near future!!

This is exactly how I felt 6 years ago when my ex-fiancee and I split up. While she and I were together, I felt trapped, somewhat smothered, and very resentful of her. She and I fought constantly. I felt as if I always had to "act a certain way, sit up straight, yada yada yada" in front of her. I felt like I could never express myself. I also like to laugh. She was kind of a cold fish. Her biggest beef with me was that I was always "embarrasing" her. I guess I wasn't "serious" enough for her. Our splitting up was the best thing that could have ever happened!

Now that you'll be able to assert yourself as a CD more openly and proudly, you'll find that folks will have difficulty NOT accepting who you are. If you don't believe that self-confidence yields greater acceptance, note that this Friday I'm taking some very religious family friends of mine to a drag bar!!

Congratulations girl!! I'm so happy for you!!

*hugssssssssssssss*

Now, whatcha gonna wear on your next ice run to that gas station?

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Wed Aug 04, 2004 10:26 pm

Elizabeth,

I too am happy that you are doing something about it. (Re: filing for divorce) At least that is doing some thing, you are on the move, meaning you are not stuck.

It appears that she is mean spirited, I wish you luck.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Thu Aug 05, 2004 12:07 am

WOW Elizabeth ,

Sounds like you've made a new friend , I agree with my sisters your posts are always interesting.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Thu Aug 05, 2004 12:21 am

Hi girls,

It is very embarrassing to admit these things. However I have found a great sense of releif by getting it off my chest. I would be quite happy to be less interesting, and have less drama in my life. I feel I am headed in that direction. Thanks for all the support.

I look forward to my life settling down and seeing my friendly neighborhood clerk in more appropriate attire.

Love always,
Elizabeth

SophieLawson · Post by **SophieLawson** » Thu Aug 05, 2004 2:00 am

OH MY GOD Elizabeth!

That is just way cool, I'm telling you sometimes things just happen like fate, amazing! Are you going to go dressed up then? heehee, this is another cool story. *hugs*

Well done Elizabeth, it's like CJ said, the world opens up to you as you open up to it!

Sophie xx

CJ · Post by CJ » Thu Aug 05, 2004 4:17 am

Hi all,

Elizabeth,

I wish you strength for whatever legal ado is coming your way.

Strange that you should mention the gas station encounter. I was once asked the very same thing by a Tim Horton's cashier (I was also dressed androgynously and had a touch of makeup on) and I replied in exactly the same way. She kept her smile and said, "cool!" I never went back "dressed," though. I wish you luck, girl!

Love,
CJ

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Thu Aug 05, 2004 7:12 am

Elizabeth,
I know what you are saying. That you hope your posts will become less interesting! Well the movie may change but its still the same theater and I always look forward to your posts. As I have said you have more intestinal foritide than most folks. Just the fact that you feel comfortable in posting and allowing your sisters here to be part of your support, we can only hope that we can continue to be a positive influence for you and I know that you realize that we are here for you anytime. Now, lets move on to what you might wear when you go back to impress the young lady at the store!!!! Rock on Sweetheart!!!
Love ya,
Deborah

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Thu Aug 05, 2004 1:22 pm

YOU GIRLS ARE GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love always,
Elizabeth

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Fri Aug 06, 2004 1:49 am

I once went to pay the man after fueling my car , my trackpants slipped down slightly exposing the top half of a pair of white satin panties .

This was his reaction --

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Fri Aug 06, 2004 2:59 am

Hi Merinda,

Yes, unfortunately I have had the same thing happen to me several times at work. Fortunately everytime it was either my brother, or best friend. My oldest brother said "What's with the panty thing?" and my best friend said "I think I seen something I was not supposed to?" I did not reply to either of them, not wanting to lie, or explain.

Love always,
Elizabeth

CJ · Post by CJ » Fri Aug 06, 2004 8:08 am

Hi all,

Elizabeth wrote: my best friend said "I think I seen something I was not supposed to?"

Yeah. It's called "reality."

Love,
CJ

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Aug 06, 2004 3:12 pm

CJ:
I love a woman of few words - especially when they go right to the heart of the matter! That was priceless! Girl Power!!!
Love,
Deborah

Marti · Post by **Marti** » Fri Aug 06, 2004 7:00 pm

I was working on my stomach under a desk at work today when the person whose desk it is says"Thats some butt crack there". Lucky I wasn't wearing panties today.