Counseling

[SophieLawson]

Sophie is important to you, treat her so.

I don't normally offer direct advice, rather I offer my own experience of a situation, so if this seems unsuitable, fair do, otherwise I hope this helps,

Love
Rebecca xxx

That does actually help a lot Rebecca!

I have always thought I'd rather tell people face-to-face about my dressing cos at least then I can see in their eyes what they maybe feel about it. I will phone her like you say and say I need to speak with you.

Also, I'm getting so damn close to telling my Sister, just so bleeding hard to get her on her own! Arghhhh.

I keep thinking I will be dead one day so lets just get on with this life, I heard a quote on TV a few weeks back. Most people are living to die, I am dying to live. That is how I feel.

Thanks Rebecca *hugs*

Sophie xx

[CJ]

Hi all,

Early December, Sophie?!?? Ouch! That's a lifetime away! See if there's any way you can see her a teeny weeny little bit more often--at least at first. It takes time for a trusting relationship to develop with a therapist. Three or four "thingies" a year with Ann won't be of much use in that regard, I suspect. (In our case, we often see people once a week for the first two months or so and only then do we spread out the meetings a bit.)

About your sister; set up a rendez-vous with her, just the two of you--tell her it's important to you that you two chat for a bit. Then tell her about Sophie... preferably, early on in that meeting so that you can spend time dealing with her reactions and answering any questions she might have, without feeling rushed about all this.

Good luck, girl!

Love,
CJ

[Kristen]

Sophie, I really don't like to tell people what to do, but (you knew the but was coming). I think I would call (ring)your therapist and let her know that dec. is much too long of a wait. You have more issues and would like a appointment earlier in the year. Okay I told you what I thought you should do, I hang my head in shame. Sorry to be so bossy. I'm old , old people do that sort of thing. Just concerned for your well being. take care, Hugs and Kisses .....Kristen

[SophieLawson]

Hi all,

Early December, Sophie?!?? Ouch! That's a lifetime away!

Yeah this wasn't the first thingy it was just a like startup thing to get me into her books like So in december I go back, first week, then on 31st then on 7th January so it will be cool then She also said I can ring her and if anyone cancels she will ring me back so I might do that in the week.

About your sister; set up a rendez-vous with her, just the two of you--tell her it's important to you that you two chat for a bit.

I will I was round there for tea yesterday and I was playing with my lil neice when she went and got a My little Pony. When my sister came in the front room she goes, is that for your Uncle? lol

Then she always goes on about me playin with her toys growing up and then she started going, girlieee girliieee I nearly told her right then but my Neice was in the room

I half expect her to know already really, but I will tell her sooon

Thanks CJ

*hugs*

Sophie xx

[SophieLawson]

Sophie, I really don't like to tell people what to do, but (you knew the but was coming). I think I would call (ring)your therapist and let her know that dec. is much too long of a wait.

I was just about to turn my PC off then, if I burn my tea it's your fault lol

Thanks Kristen, I know, my Mum said pretty much the same thing as you I will ring her in the week and say I have issues I didn't feel right telling you last week but I need to tell you now.

Thanks, and being Bossy is fine cos you are right lol I am round my Mums tomorrow as well so I'm gonna speak to her about a lot of things as well, like telling my Sister and going shopping and stuff

*hugs*

Sophie xx

[Chantelle]

I think that everyone has said everything so I will just wish you the best of luck!!

Chantelle

xx

[Carolynn]

Hi Sophie!!!! I too wish you luck with the therapist. I think you will do well! Say, I am curious. Around the American south, tea tends to be liquid. Although I have been know to accuse resturaunts in the south of being so enamoured of fried foods, they would fry water if they could , I was wondering how you would go about burning your tea?

(Don't worry, I'm really not so daft I don't know about the English Tea custom, just saw the opportunity to poke fun at Southern cooking, since it has been a pet peeve of mine since I became aware of part of the causes of my spreading waistline! )

[Lorna]

Hi Sophie,

Good luck with the counselor. And just remember, just like the other gals have said, Sophie is a beautiful person and an important part of you!!

[Anita]

Hi Sophie--
Counselling can be really helpful. Just having someone's undivided attention for fifty minutes is something in and of itself. Friends and girlfriends/wives might listen that way sometimes, but there it's more give and take. They have their needs, too. The counselor is getting paid to attend to YOUR needs.

I had one therapist after I started CDing, but I didn't spend that much time talking about it. I wasn't in a close relationship where it affected someone else, and that's what would tend to make me talk.

I've found my best therapy (around CDing) to be doing just what you're doing--talking to other CDs, either on here or in person. The more stories you hear, the more you can say, "Oh, I understand why she did that, I feel that, too..." We are not professionals, but we do base our lives on many similiar feelings to what you're feeling.

And there again, you can always recognize the ones whose experiences are closer to what you feel, too. Those are the ones you pay more attention to, because if they're describing something you haven't run into yet, the chances are higher that you might encounter that yourself.

December? Yeah, that IS a long way off.
Best,
Anita

[SophieLawson]

Thanks anita This place has helped more then anything else ever ever ever lol

Yesterday I went down my Mums and we talked about telling my Sister and so I'm gonna tell her this week, Mum thinks I should ring her up and get her roung my place so that she is on her own.

Anyways, was cool yesterday cos Mum went to me, owww, I wish I had nails like yours lol So cool, she wears false nails as she is growing hers Also, I cut a lot of my arm hair off, as soon as I tell my Sister I will shave it all off so that will be something to look forward to.

*hugs*

Sophie xx

[Jessie]

I just got some ODD news that may make have to stop seeing the theropist tell next year. I am not sure My insurance CO sent me a letter of how much I shall need to pay him and it gone up from 40/60 which I just reached to back to full amount. I really thought I was making some progress with him but if the cost is so hi and with my mom not sure if she can still help me out with the payments I am not sure how many more sessions I will be able to attend. Maybe it is just a mistake.

Oh just something else I have to worry about that I really did not want to have to worry about.

Jessie

[SophieLawson]

How typical is this!

I have been on to my Dr about seeing this counseler, and in the end I told my Dr that I cross dress. She said it's fine, not hurting anyone and I'm not the first person to tell her that.

This was over a week ago, so she said she had contacted another counseler for me. I got a letter on Thursday to say I had an appointment with this new counseller on Wednesday 27th October. And then today I get a letter from my original counseller to say she has put back an appointment for me on Thursday 28th october

I've been waiting for weeks and weeks and now I get 2 at once lol

Sophie xx