Okay, I was reading another post and this thought came to my mind.... Let me propose a "What if" to you all...
Lets assume a situation.....
1. You are a "normal" male.... just an average work a day guy like all else in the world.
2. You are married to a wonderful woman, who likes alot of the same things you like. She likes to work on the car, she watches football and scratches her crotch while doing so.... You feel really comfortable around her...
3. You come home early from work one day and find your wife wearing a beer stained t-shirt, blue jeans and belching....
4. You wife wants to dress like a man.... (okay a red-neck man)
How do you react?
What if the situation was reversed when "it is found out"????
What if....
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To be truthful (having no experience living with no one) but having a great imagination I would be a little anode as I suspect many would of the person not being that respectful of themsef. But that atains to them wearing a "BEER STAINED SHIRT" other than that I can not think of anything else that would be wrong.
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GOOD THREAD !!!!!
this is an interpretation question.
Is a tomboyish,masculine woman mean that she is a CD/TG?
not necessarily anymore than her male counterpart who seems to posses feminine gestures and likes means that he is a CD/TG.
Do you mean if she is sneaking around and hiding the fact that she enjoys
playing the male role for fear of reaction and rejection?
Perhaps a CD.
If she feels that she IS male and identifies as such,
Definately a TG.
The big difference here is the sexual preference.
While ALOT (not all) CD/TG's stay married.
What is the ratio for females who identify as male in a succesful marriage I wonder?
Very good question, Shannon!
this is an interpretation question.
Is a tomboyish,masculine woman mean that she is a CD/TG?
not necessarily anymore than her male counterpart who seems to posses feminine gestures and likes means that he is a CD/TG.
Do you mean if she is sneaking around and hiding the fact that she enjoys
playing the male role for fear of reaction and rejection?
Perhaps a CD.
If she feels that she IS male and identifies as such,
Definately a TG.
The big difference here is the sexual preference.
While ALOT (not all) CD/TG's stay married.
What is the ratio for females who identify as male in a succesful marriage I wonder?
Very good question, Shannon!
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First off, there's no such thing as a "normal" male (or a "normal" female either for that matter) since what's considered normal for one person may be totally bizzare for another. But for the purpose of your post I would presume that what you mean is that this average guy is NOT a crossdresser.
If I came home unexpectedly and found my wife as you've described it wouldn't be anything that I'd have an aversion for as long as it didn't have any effect on our personal lives (sexually speaking) and it's not something that's going to cause her any physical harm. EVERYBODY has a few fantasys and if one of hers is to dress and act like a man I have no problem with that at all as long as it has no adverse affect on her love and feelings towards me. If two people are in love with each other enough, then one will have no objections to some of the things that the other one does even if they don't see the validity or sense in whatever it is that they're doing.
Now, I know that you're probably thinking that the only reason I think this way is because I'm a crossdresser and I'd like to have the same attitude and courtesy afforded to me. If you think that then you're probably right, but I see being a crossdresser as a positive simply because it will FORCE you to look at other people's views and situations differently and with an attempt to understand if they're 'different' than we are. I think that's a GOOD thing. Those who adopt an attitude of "It's MY way or NO way" in life can look forward to having a 'tough row to hoe' (as we say here in the south) during the course of their lifetime and they're also the ones who seem to get into the most trouble (due to their attitudes) the most often.
I look at it this way - I was BORN a crossdresser. I didn't ask to be one and I didn't wake up one morning and decide I wanted to be one. Over the years I've come to recognize and accept my being a crossdresser as a gift. Now that might sound strange, but I have a good reason to believe that way. That reasoning is what makes me think twice before I criticize someone else because of the lifestyle they lead. While there are some who make a decision to live a certain style, others - ESPECIALLY those within the transgendered spectrum - have no choice in the matter. And while I don't understand or elect to be a part of the gay, bi-sexual, etc. lifestyle, I DO respect the fact that these people are in much the same situation as we, as crossdressers, are. They didn't ASK to be the type person they are but they have to contend with it and play the cards they've been dealt. So who am I (or anyone else) to be critical of these or others? As a confirmed crossdresser I have the ability (gift) to be compassionate with others' situations even though I may not agree with them.
Dang, I didn't mean to get off on a tangent there and so far away from the topic. So to answer your question, if I came home and found my wife dressed as you describe and having a good time dressed endrab I think I'd do whatever I could to help her enjoy it more. Doing so would ONLY make her care more for me and draw the two of us into a closer bond.
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If I came home unexpectedly and found my wife as you've described it wouldn't be anything that I'd have an aversion for as long as it didn't have any effect on our personal lives (sexually speaking) and it's not something that's going to cause her any physical harm. EVERYBODY has a few fantasys and if one of hers is to dress and act like a man I have no problem with that at all as long as it has no adverse affect on her love and feelings towards me. If two people are in love with each other enough, then one will have no objections to some of the things that the other one does even if they don't see the validity or sense in whatever it is that they're doing.
Now, I know that you're probably thinking that the only reason I think this way is because I'm a crossdresser and I'd like to have the same attitude and courtesy afforded to me. If you think that then you're probably right, but I see being a crossdresser as a positive simply because it will FORCE you to look at other people's views and situations differently and with an attempt to understand if they're 'different' than we are. I think that's a GOOD thing. Those who adopt an attitude of "It's MY way or NO way" in life can look forward to having a 'tough row to hoe' (as we say here in the south) during the course of their lifetime and they're also the ones who seem to get into the most trouble (due to their attitudes) the most often.
I look at it this way - I was BORN a crossdresser. I didn't ask to be one and I didn't wake up one morning and decide I wanted to be one. Over the years I've come to recognize and accept my being a crossdresser as a gift. Now that might sound strange, but I have a good reason to believe that way. That reasoning is what makes me think twice before I criticize someone else because of the lifestyle they lead. While there are some who make a decision to live a certain style, others - ESPECIALLY those within the transgendered spectrum - have no choice in the matter. And while I don't understand or elect to be a part of the gay, bi-sexual, etc. lifestyle, I DO respect the fact that these people are in much the same situation as we, as crossdressers, are. They didn't ASK to be the type person they are but they have to contend with it and play the cards they've been dealt. So who am I (or anyone else) to be critical of these or others? As a confirmed crossdresser I have the ability (gift) to be compassionate with others' situations even though I may not agree with them.
Dang, I didn't mean to get off on a tangent there and so far away from the topic. So to answer your question, if I came home and found my wife dressed as you describe and having a good time dressed endrab I think I'd do whatever I could to help her enjoy it more. Doing so would ONLY make her care more for me and draw the two of us into a closer bond.
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Well I am glad to see the posts, very interesting so far.....
I also want to note that Lefty is right, it is an interperative question, not literal.....
Don't get hung up on the "beer stained tee shirt" deal.... I am just trying to emphasize a "typical" male stereotype..... and that is hard to do since most women wear men's cloths all the time....
But keep the comments coming... it is interesting.
Shannon
I also want to note that Lefty is right, it is an interperative question, not literal.....
Don't get hung up on the "beer stained tee shirt" deal.... I am just trying to emphasize a "typical" male stereotype..... and that is hard to do since most women wear men's cloths all the time....
But keep the comments coming... it is interesting.
Shannon
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Hi all,
Boy oh boy, this is a fun topic, Shannon! Well, for starters, I'd just listen to what she has to say. Loving her as I do, I would then debate with myself for a mere picosecond whether or not I could accept this side of her. And then I'd try to get in on the fun by perhaps first asking her to let me help her select an "alternate " and a bit more stylish typical male look, one that doesn't stand the chance of soiling our $4,000 sofa.
Seriously, I probably wouldn't be thrilled and overjoyed with the revelation, but I would, eventually, come around to feeling privileged at her trusting me and loving me enough to want to share this unsuspected side of herself with me. I mean, she's still the same soul I've been loving all along, right? "Now, Hon, I've got this tie that I know would look just so classy on you along with that blue pinstripe suit I never wear. What say you give it a try? Here, let me help you...."
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Boy oh boy, this is a fun topic, Shannon! Well, for starters, I'd just listen to what she has to say. Loving her as I do, I would then debate with myself for a mere picosecond whether or not I could accept this side of her. And then I'd try to get in on the fun by perhaps first asking her to let me help her select an "alternate " and a bit more stylish typical male look, one that doesn't stand the chance of soiling our $4,000 sofa.
Seriously, I probably wouldn't be thrilled and overjoyed with the revelation, but I would, eventually, come around to feeling privileged at her trusting me and loving me enough to want to share this unsuspected side of herself with me. I mean, she's still the same soul I've been loving all along, right? "Now, Hon, I've got this tie that I know would look just so classy on you along with that blue pinstripe suit I never wear. What say you give it a try? Here, let me help you...."
Love,
CJ
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Re: What if....
I'd take a shower, put on my sexiest outfit and then the rest I can't tell.Shannon wrote:Okay, I was reading another post and this thought came to my mind.... Let me propose a "What if" to you all...
Lets assume a situation.....
1. You are a "normal" male.... just an average work a day guy like all else in the world.
2. You are married to a wonderful woman, who likes alot of the same things you like. She likes to work on the car, she watches football and scratches her crotch while doing so.... You feel really comfortable around her...
3. You come home early from work one day and find your wife wearing a beer stained t-shirt, blue jeans and belching....
4. You wife wants to dress like a man.... (okay a red-neck man)
How do you react?
What if the situation was reversed when "it is found out"????
I guess I'm saying I'd be very happy!!
Beauty
p.s. Sorry I missed this post the first time.
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Well this is an interesting question.
As a single person I can only go off my vivid imagination.
If I were a "normal" male, I guess I would feel a little threatened. Now before you get upset. I interpet "normal" as some what homophobic and not secure with there own sexualty. So anything out of the "norm" would make a "normal" male start to question themself as to how they could love a person like that.
Now for me as I am. If I came home with a SO who was dressed like that I would most likely laugh first not out of anything but it being somewhat unexpected. I would then want to talk to her about what she is feeling?
As a single person I can only go off my vivid imagination.
If I were a "normal" male, I guess I would feel a little threatened. Now before you get upset. I interpet "normal" as some what homophobic and not secure with there own sexualty. So anything out of the "norm" would make a "normal" male start to question themself as to how they could love a person like that.
Now for me as I am. If I came home with a SO who was dressed like that I would most likely laugh first not out of anything but it being somewhat unexpected. I would then want to talk to her about what she is feeling?
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what if
dressing sloppily wouldn't be good for anyone. my wife tends to dress
more boyishly most of the time.we do a lot of role playing and have fun with it.
more boyishly most of the time.we do a lot of role playing and have fun with it.