Crossdressing Addiction?

How are you dealing with or handling this aspect of your life?

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Post by Beauty »

Hi,

I commend everyone on their responses. Again, so much brain power here. It's just scary.

Elizabeth I can see why they think it's an addiction, but I am with Alexandra about. Why should I let them tell me what they think? If you asked them, "Do you think this is an addiction?" Then I could understand listening before I shut them off from telling me that anymore. :wink:

Here's why I think they view it as an addiction right now though. I've said in other posts this is your coming out time. You're most likely living right now in a way you won't be living in a year or two. So right now they don't have time with this you. So it looks to them like you're forsaking your family to get high on this crossdressing thing. I can't blame them for thinking that way because they are just feeling after-all. The bottom line is they are off with their addiction theory.

Regardless of what they think it goes back to what Alexandra said for me. What does it matter? You said you don't think it is. The only way to show them is with time. No words, websites, books, radio or tv programs are going to change their opinions. Only time will and even good old father time isn't able to do that 100% of the "time".

I thought everyone had excellent points here and I'm not trying to single out anyone. I read all of them and agreed with the advice you gave to Elizabeth.

I hope no one thinks I'm being too harsh on those who start accepting CD'ing as a critical part of themselves that needs to be expressed. When you come out, I feel it becomes an obsession, but not an addiction. I went through this. I may go through it again for all I know. By everything I've learned it's a one time kind of thing once you have absolute freedom though (which thankfully I do in my marriage). I repressed my dressing for many years. When I decided I accepted myself, months of obsessive behavior happened because I was damned if I was going back in that closet. If my parents and my relatives were around then I believe they would have felt much like Elizabeth's family does now. When I look back at those times, I'm like, "Wow.. was that overkill!" :) I accept that it was a growing experience though. I, in my opinion, had to go through it.

I so went on longer than I wanted to. :) Sorry!!!

It's not an addiction. (that could have been my whole post) :)

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Post by Lorna »

Hi Elizabeth,

Great topic! :-k
I personally don't buy into the whole addiction theory.
Neither do I... I've always felt that as far as regular addictions go, there's always the physical element involed. Most addictions will usually have permanent physical effects on the body. I have always placed CDing under the category of hobby.

To me it's something many of us like to do for fun, and it relaxes us, such as listening to a favorite song. I guess some folks in this world can theorize that music is an addiction too... :-({|= ##3## :-({|= @@9@@
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