Just got dumped

Laura Ashcroft · Post by **Laura Ashcroft** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 1:31 pm

My girlfriend just dumped me this morning. God I am sad. I loved her with all I had.

Alexandra · Post by **Alexandra** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 1:49 pm

Bummer. Hang in there girl.

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 2:25 pm

Hi Laura,

I'm real sorry to hear that.

Her loss though...

Calina_Leigh · Post by **Calina_Leigh** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 2:52 pm

Sorry to hear about that.

But remember there is a whole world of others out there and we are here to support you.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 2:56 pm

I am also sorry to hear about that Sister.

SophieLawson · Post by **SophieLawson** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 3:41 pm

Not good, hope your feel happy happy soon!

Sophie xx

Angie · Post by **Angie** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 6:17 pm

Laura,

Don't think you have to go it alone, girl. Most, if not all, of us have been there before. Let us know if we can help!

Take Care,
Angie

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 7:53 pm

Hi Laura,

I'm sorry to hear that.

Are you cool with saying what happened? If you're not it's ok. I just thought I'd ask.

As you can see we're all here for you.

Beauty

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue Sep 21, 2004 10:34 pm

Laura,
We are here for you!!! When you can, tell us if you know why. If it was your crossdressing or something else! Hang in there, girl!
Love,
Virginia

Laura Ashcroft · Post by **Laura Ashcroft** » Wed Sep 22, 2004 1:01 am

This is why:

Honey I am so very very sad right now and I didn't want things to go this way. You asked me to only give you the truth so this is what I am doing. I do truly love you but I guess its not enough right now. I was up most of the night crying and stressing over this. I know I had to do it for me...and for you. I am not ready to give you the commitments you need. I am not ready to be a mother of 4. I am not able to change my lifestyle with my friends the way you would like me to. It is not fair of me to string you along hoping that I will change my way of thinking or that you will change yours. Neither is ever going to happen and I now know this. You did nothing wrong to make me make this decision and its the hardest thing I have ever had to do. The longer I waited the harder it was going to be and I finally realized that. I want you to know that you are a wonderful person and will make some very luck! y girl very very happy. Please don't give up on that. You have some extremely phenomenal traits and I am sometimes in awe of you and the way you are. You are a very very handsome man weather you choose to believe me or not. You are very intelligent and funny, you care very deeply about others and you are the perfect gentleman. Our personality's are so very different and even though opposites attract, it doesn't mean that they are meant to be together. I cherish our time that we spent and I always will. No matter what you choose to think there is no one else in my life and I don't know if there will ever be. I just know deep in my heart that I am not going to try and change anyone. You need to be you, and I need to be me. I never wanted to hurt you and I know I have. Believe it or not I think is hurting me far worse than if you broke up with me. You are a wonderful father and an even better man and ! I will mourn the loss of having you in my life. I'm sure that you don't want to hear this but later down the road if you ever need a friend..I would love to be here for you. I really don't want to cut all our ties but I will let you be the one to make that decision. Please don't let me be the cause of you thinking that you did anything to create or deserve this because you didn't..I did. But I have come to the conclusion that I needed to do this for the both of us. I will always love you deep in my heart and you are so very special to me. I know this is kinda cliche but that Jodie Messina song keeps going through my head..It says all the things I am thinking about you..I wish you strength.when times are hard..oh I wish with all my heart you find just what you are looking for..I wish you joy..I wish you peace..and that every star you see's within your reach. I wish for you a wonderful life and all it can bring. Just remember. Yo! u are the one who can change things, and you are the one to create your own destiny. I truly hope that you can see that and not hate me. Please tell the children that I enjoyed our time together and I care for them deeply. Ashley..who has your heart and feels so deeply will need constant reassurance throughout her life but is going to go places..I know it! Daniel that little stubborn imp.. He's a strong little boy and has all your stubbornness and intelligence and I think he would be a great congressman someday.. And special Amy.. shes a beautiful little girl and I hope she realizes it someday..shes got your sense of humor and such a bubbly personality..shes going to be a great mom someday. Please tell them all that they did nothing to cause this and that I am going to miss them greatly. The thought of them and you hating me is killing me right now. You will never hear a bad word about any of you pass my lips. I will always be! thinking of you and hoping you find all that you dream of. I will always think fondly of you and will always have a deep love in my heart for you. Please understand that I had to do this for both of us, and not resent me for too long.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Wed Sep 22, 2004 6:47 am

Hi Laura,

There's not much to say after reading that.

I'm sorry it didn't work out, but she is most likely right about you being a great dad and person.

Again there's nothing I can really say. So I hope this is good enough (what's below)

Beauty

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Wed Sep 22, 2004 7:57 pm

Hi Laura,

My wife left me for another man, recently. I know your pain and anguish. I wish I could wave a magic wand and take you pain away. I would. I wish I could tell you everthing is going to be ok, and it would be.

I know there are no words to ease your pain, but know that all of us here know pain and rejection and symathize with you. I am sorry this has happened to you, from what she says you are a great person. Do not forget this.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Wed Sep 22, 2004 8:13 pm

Hi Laura,

After reading that letter, it is definitely very obvious that it was totally her decision to throw away a beautiful thing.

I also agree with what Elizabeth said. About you being a wonderful and caring person the letter says it all.

CJ · Post by CJ » Wed Sep 22, 2004 8:29 pm

Hi all,

Ouch, Laura!

That one hurt. There's nothing I feel I can say that won't sound trite. But, well, you'll be in my thoughts, all four of you. I've had the line "it's not you; it's me" delivered to me also, and it sure as hell doesn't lessen the pain any.

For you and the kids:

Love,
CJ

Aislin · Post by **Aislin** » Sat Sep 25, 2004 6:24 pm

That one hurt. But standing up and looking at it throught these eyes my first thought was wow honesty. The pain will go away, I know it sucks worse than anything right now, but it will go away.

All I want to say is do your best to have that one as a long term friend. Because as friendships go she will be worth it. I have one that quit the same way, we send christmass cards, e-mails and telephone calls as needed because nobody knows her or me better. I was hurt and let her back in while keeping my distance.

Loves and Hugs as you go through this. I mean to offer hope.