Last photosession except special occasions

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 4:10 am

Hi girls ,

The brain has been ticking over within the last few weeks and I have made a few decisions.

I have decided to end all regular photosessions , I believe this to be a source of fuel to my Cding and a big contributor to the arguments that sometimes follow.

My SO and kids were away in Sydney recently , this gave me space to think clearly . In the time they were away I did not dress once , WHY NOT ???,
I dont quite know but all I could think of was because I wasn't photoing.
I do dress on odd occasions without photoing but most times the camera is used .

My SO and I have had a few arguments in relation to dressing and going out without her knowledge so I have decided to finish off my photosessions, I believe this will take the presure off.

I will still sometimes dress when the house is vacated but I dont have to involve my daughter as photographer or involve my SO , other than the fact that they know it goes on.

I made an agreement with my SO in reguards to a last photosession,
I am going out with my daughter to the park and to the shops .
The nerves will settle this time because I HAVE THE OK!! from my SO

I will still photo should a special occasion occur and I supose once a year to keep refreshed would count as a special occasion but regular photos are getting the boot.

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 8:10 am

Merinda,
My CDer also always want to take pictures. The first time I thought it was going to be a one or two shot deal but he continues to want much more. We have lots and lots of pictures and videos and he continues to want more. He fears discovery but I think the more "evidence" the greater the danger.
Can you explain this need? Its not that big a deal except it just gets to be a lot of work for me. He has his fun posing and prancing but its just not that much fun on the other side of the lense.
Thanks.

SophieLawson · Post by **SophieLawson** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 9:32 am

Hmm... I too find that when I'm dressed I want to take photos, I dunno what it is??? I dress up a little without makeup and dont take pics but if I dress up with makeup I normally take at least 1 pic.

I just think it's part of the fun so I'm happy doing it, gives me more reason to dress up other then just to sit around I guess.

Sophie xx

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 3:27 pm

MariasGirl(SO) wrote:Merinda,
My CDer also always want to take pictures. The first time I thought it was going to be a one or two shot deal but he continues to want much more. We have lots and lots of pictures and videos and he continues to want more. He fears discovery but I think the more "evidence" the greater the danger.
Can you explain this need?

Hi MariasGirl,

For me photos are absolute proof of an event , a photofile is proof of identity when I'm not CDing ( confused? )

In other words if I had to give CDing up tomorrow every aspect would be a memory , however as long as I have the photos I have something .

I have hundreds of images in many different outfits and if I did decide to give up CDing for good I have photos to look back on , not just my memory.

Calina_Leigh · Post by **Calina_Leigh** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 3:49 pm

Ok here is my two cents, I love getting my picture taken and have many, many of them. But I do also wear dresses and such around the house after work. I am happy that Bubbles does not take issue with it. I think that part of it is that I do not change who I am.(I even started a thread about it http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=2382 ).
I think part of the picture taking is that I want to see myself and a mirror is just to temporary. I think that for the most part Bubbles is so-so about it in that she does not seem to mind but does not seem excited about it(Which is ok with me because the times she did not want to seem to do it, I just used the timer on the camera. I do not want to force her into something that she does not feel like doing.) But on the flip side, there are a few times that we had a little fun with it. She also likes to get her picture taken and I am all for it, not having a problem taking the pictures for her. (Even when I know what they are for). I was told once by someone that my wife found in a support group that you have to becareful because some CDer's become narcissistic when they first come out. So my theory is that we like to have our pictures taken because we want to see what we look like and we share the good ones so others can give their opinion on them(the narcissitic part). As far as crossdressing is concerned in general, I think that I might have had the same realization as Merinda Widget, to paraphrase "Clothing does not make the (wo)man, it is what is inside.

Ok disclaimer time

The opinions expressed in this post are not neccessarily those of the forum in general. They are opinions and have been formed while on the journey of discovering who I am. I mean no disrespect and am not intentionally trying to attack or discredit other's views or opinions. Any one that disagrees with these opinions is entitled to do so, I take no personal offense to anyone that has opposing view points.

Julie M. · Post by **Julie M.** » Thu Sep 30, 2004 7:03 pm

Do photos "fuel the fire"?

I take pics every time I'm fully dressed. It has helped me immensely in improving my apperance and keeps me sane when I can't dress. It makes the experience so much more enjoyable.

Yesterday I was working on a spice rack for my wife. I was dressed the entire time. I took pictures of me working in the workshop and as I did I kept a blog (if that's the right term) on the forum I moderate. Every so often I would post a comment and a picture and get replies. It was like having friends over while I was working on it. It made the project so much more enjoyable. I felt like we were all together, dressed, discussing the progress of the project. I could never have had a real life experience like that for obvious reasons.

Today I got up, dressed and hung the spicerack. Then I cleaned the house. While I was cleaning the kitchen I took more pics. Again I posted them and jokingly claimed I found a new job as a house maid. And again it made it more fun.

Most of us are starved for dressing time, starved for friendship while dressed and starved for fun while dressed. This provides an acceptable substitute.

Until society is comfortable with seeing a man in a dress I'll keep taking photos.

Joanna_S · Post by **Joanna_S** » Fri Oct 01, 2004 2:49 am

When I had my first photo session in january 2004, I thought, it would be the only one but there has been many more after that. My girlfriend took the pictures and she felt quite exhausted after our first session but the other sessions have been easier and she´s been able to enjoy being behind the lens. There are two reasons why these pictures are so important. The main reason is that if I´can´t dress for some reason, I can watch the pictures and get some kind of satisfaction from it. It´s hard to explain but it simply feels so good to look at yourself with beautiful outfit and make-up. The other reason is that having spent 2 hours for dressing up and putting on make-up, it´s worth saving in a photograph.
However, there are evenings, I just don´t have the energy to pose because our sessions usually last several hours. Sometimes it´s nice to relax, watch tv, eat something good and talk.
I hope, someday my gf wants to see my underwear pictures,
I took myself. Can you believe, that she hasn´t seen me in my female undies yet? Sometimes I wonder why this is such a difficult thing to her.
I dress 2-3 times a week and she has no problem with that. Are any of you ladies in the same situation. SO´s answers are also welcome

Joanna

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Fri Oct 01, 2004 7:40 am

Thanks for all the responses to my question. It helps me alot.
I can understand the desire to have something to look back on during the times when there's no way to dress.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Sun Oct 03, 2004 4:46 am

Mission accomplished 007 ,

The last photosession ( except special occasions ) is done.

My daughter accompanied me to a number of locations where she took the photos

(1) Westfield shopping centre -- a very busy shopping centre , I noticed a couple of males look at me , my daughter said one bloke stared at me.
I cannott recall any females glancing at me.

(2) Alphington park --- a few families in the park and a kids birthday party , nobody paid any attention to us.

(3) ST Georges RD --- encountered one male who walked past without raising his eyebrows , so to did one female runner and one car tooted horn.
(3A) The park in ST Georges RD ----- one female looked in my direction from a distance and one male paid no attention.

All in all , a good day out .