The total stranger in the mirror.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 8:34 am

I stumbled accross the following passage. For me, it hits the nail right on the head. I think its beautiful, see if it reminds you of anything.....
"You see someone looking back, a total stranger that you recognize immediately. You see your sister, your alter ego, the only woman that will ever understand you. A combination of your mother, the wife, the woman you'll never be. Your eyes lock with your eyes, and a destiny you never pictured locks into place. You fall in love. With the woman in you. And the man you thought you were will do anything to make her dreams come true.

Love Darlene.

CJ · Post by CJ » Sat Nov 27, 2004 9:30 am

Oooohh, Darlene, poor Narcissus drowned when, staring at, and falling in love with, his own image, in the surface of a pond, he fell into the water!

In the meantime, somewhere else in the realm, Icarus was plummeting to Earth, his shoulders a gooey mess of molten wax...

Love,
CJ

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 12:48 pm

I like that a lot, Darlene. Mirrors can very magic devices for all, but especially for us.

KathyB · Post by **KathyB** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 2:46 pm

At the local Tri-Ess meeting this month, I happened to look in a mirror across the room, and could have sworn I saw my mother.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 6:59 pm

Zippy wrote:At the local Tri-Ess meeting this month, I happened to look in a mirror across the room, and could have sworn I saw my mother.

Yes Zippy , I could see my mother in one of my photo's I did years back , I've definatly got Shirleys legs .
I should thank her .

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 8:30 pm

Yes, Sis, I will do whatever it takes to make Virginia happy as she has made me happy!!
Virginia

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Nov 27, 2004 8:33 pm

Hi Darlene,

That was very interesting.

I can't say I've done all of the things the quote said he saw in the mirror, but I have thought, "OMG.. I look like my mom more than I thought."

When my mom looks at my pictures she says she just sees herself. I take it as a huge compliment.

I did show a picture of my mom to someone once and he showed it to his wife who promptly asked, "Who dressed him up like a woman?"

Beauty

Violet · Post by **Violet** » Mon Nov 29, 2004 12:48 pm

Ever notice how a 'mirror image' can mean something is exactly the same, but it can also mean that it's exactly the opposite?

That is a wonderful quote. Would you mind posting the source?

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Mon Nov 29, 2004 1:09 pm

Violet,

That was someones post from another forum that I visited. Sorry but I can't remember which one it was, but that is all there was to it.

Love Darlene.

Cathy L. Anderson · Post by **Cathy L. Anderson** » Fri Dec 03, 2004 2:40 am

Darlene wrote:"You see someone looking back, a total stranger that you recognize immediately... You fall in love. With the woman in you....

The interesting question is: while identifying internally as a woman, but dressed male, can you recognize and love the man you see looking back in the mirror?

Perhaps something very special happens when the inner man loves the inner woman and vice versa.

BTW, Darlene's passage seems an excellent description of confrontation with one's anima.

Cathy

Beautiful_Gal · Post by **Beautiful_Gal** » Fri Dec 10, 2004 9:34 pm

I feel kind of weird when I look in the mirror...I want to think of myself as a beautiful girl but I don't look beautiful...

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Dec 10, 2004 9:57 pm

Well BG I guess I have to ask and you should ask: "What do you want or expect to see when you look in the mirror?" Are you trying to see something more or less than what is there? Do you use the mirror just to shave or put on make-up or are you really looking for something? This can get real deep real quick, so I will leave it at that but you have to answer for yourself. Don't rush it take your time. Some of us struggle at various stages of our journey - comes with the territory. Just stay calm, love who you are, don't over analyze this. It will all come together in its own time.
Love,
Virginia

RikkiOfLA · Post by **RikkiOfLA** » Sat Dec 11, 2004 6:58 am

When I lived in male mode, I didn't like my male reflection. I thought it was unattractive.

When I first started crossdressing, after I had got the hang of basic makeup techniques, as part of doing my makeup I really looked at the mirror. I liked what I saw. In fact, so much so, that (as I realize now) I thought I was more attractive and passable than I really was. It was funny and scary, 'cause I would go out sometimes ill-prepared.

Then, a couple of years after I went full time, as I got used to being crossdressed, I seemed to be aging alarmingly fast. Was I seriously ill? No, the novelty had worn off, and I was starting to accept my female appearance the same unpleasant way I had accepted my male appearance.

Then I learned some more makeup techniques. And I finally began to like myself realistically. Now I like what I see, but I am more realistic about it.

Beautiful_Gal · Post by **Beautiful_Gal** » Sun Dec 19, 2004 1:11 am

Virginia wrote:Well BG I guess I have to ask and you should ask: "What do you want or expect to see when you look in the mirror?" Are you trying to see something more or less than what is there? Do you use the mirror just to shave or put on make-up or are you really looking for something? This can get real deep real quick, so I will leave it at that but you have to answer for yourself. Don't rush it take your time. Some of us struggle at various stages of our journey - comes with the territory. Just stay calm, love who you are, don't over analyze this. It will all come together in its own time.
Love,
Virginia

I dunno what I am looking for, I'll give it time.

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