So...what do I do now?

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Nov 15, 2004 8:33 am

Rednecks? In Oregon?

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Sun Nov 21, 2004 8:19 pm

DonnaT, Yes in Oregon. Not in the Metro area so much, but I'm sort of out in the sticks a bit and yes....one of the counties that voted to ban Gay Marriages

Well, I made it 16 days. I know that will sound discusting to a lot of gurls out there, but starting about day 14, I was getting.....bored? No, not really bored so much as wanting to get out!

I learned a few things. I'll learn again later in the winter as my DW has suggested doing this again when there is no point in getting out anyway. I think I started to feel like a true 50's housewife.....stuck at home, no way to get out, and sometimes wishing I could.

Still-in-all, it was a lot of fun! I'm starting to look forward and planning my 'winter' vacation.

Thanks to all who followed and made suggestions. Honestly girls, I don't know how the GG's do it

I guess I am a 'Janegirl?'

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Nov 21, 2004 11:09 pm

Well, it was a good effort.

So, how much weight did you lose?

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Mon Nov 22, 2004 12:20 am

Thanks for your encouragement. I don't know weight wise, but it was a bit over one belt notch. Not bad for 16 days I think. And I'm not going back to my old ways just yet thank you. Funny, we don't keep a bathroom scale around. DW prefers to go by fit rather than pounds. Can't argue with that?

Thanks again. Let's see what happens in the next round ##!!##!!## huh?

RikkiOfLA · Post by **RikkiOfLA** » Mon Nov 22, 2004 8:53 am

Hi Hope,

I would add my vote to the suggestion that you go out.

When I began crossdressing (only a few years ago), after my first few initial times, my wife noticed it was kind of taking over our lives. She didn't mind the clothes. But she did very much mind what I wanted to do all the time when I was dressed. She wanted to do the things we normally do--the chores, dinner out, etc. etc. And I could see her point--if girl time was all frou-frou fun time, it would trivialize womanhood (which would certainly be insulting to her) and give me a falsely glamorous idea of what it's like to be a real woman. So she insisted that if I was going to wear the clothes, I would have to do the work. And so I discovered the secret--women work a lot harder than men! Most women today work a full-time job, then come home and do all or most of the housekeeping chores. Plus at work they are usually the ones drafted to decorate the office for holidays, put together the office birthday parties, etc. etc. And on top of this they are expected to keep higher grooming standards than men--colored hair, makeup, heels, etc. etc.

It's been a real learning experience, and a healthy boost of my self-esteem. So I heartily recommend moving gradually toward living as much of your normal life dressed as possible.

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Tue Jan 11, 2005 7:33 pm

Ok, now if this is getting old, please tell me. I'll knock it off.

Just started my Winter 'vacation'. This one will be cut short since we have numerous activities planned but....back to the diet to end all diets. Nothing in the house and against many suggestions, I'm not going shopping for groceries with my dress on. Sorry friends, I'm not quite there yet. Maybe one day.

Time to start making a new dress, and getting the house cleaned again. My DW actually missed the maid durint the last couple months. Hmmmm. And even though she chuckles about the diet, she agreed it REALLY WORKED.

Stuck wiht no boy clothes, not willing to go out in public (yet), I'm telling you, it's one way to stick to a strict diet and have a lot of fun in the process.

Thanks to all for prior comments and encouragement. Let's see how this one goes?

Why do I so enjoy this? sigh.....

Post by **DonnaT** » Wed Jan 12, 2005 9:09 am

Well, it seemed to work the last time, so why not do it agian? Too bad about the dressing and not going out though. Someday, yes?

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Wed Jan 12, 2005 2:33 pm

Well...maybe. It's funny, the more I wear dresses, the more 'normal' I feel and the less afraid I am? I didn't used to walk out on our deck (visible from the road) but lately, I just walk out like I belong, have my smoke (0r whatever) and back.

I think it will just take time to believe in myself? Course, I would have to dress 'normal' which does not include pettis unfortunately....that gives me a look of a waist and hips that I need. Oh well....

Back to sewing. Thanks

Hope

Cathy L. Anderson · Post by **Cathy L. Anderson** » Thu Jan 13, 2005 5:25 am

Celia wrote:Some folks go for the compulsory stuff, some don't... I might feel someone was trampling my autonomy.

Maybe a temporary suspension of autonomy is the point of the exercise--a chance to learn something about ego loss.

Cathy

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Thu Jan 13, 2005 10:48 am

I think that may be part of it. It's actually been quite valuable to both me, and my DW. I've actually come to understand feeling helpless in certain situations. I've understood fear when being alone in what I would consider an 'exposed' mode. And....now I understand better how much full skirts get in the way!

And most of all, I'm understanding how danged uncomfortable a bra can sometimes be after a while!

But I still wouldn't give any of it up and that....I probably never will understand.