sexy clothes on women

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 10:14 am

I am wearing a nice new top today which although not revealing is very sexy in it's design. A Lane Bryant lace cami with fromt tie shrug, black with pink trim. I was thinking that if my wife was wearing it I would have a hard time keeping my hands off her. However it is not a style that she would really like. She does not really like to wear sexy clothes, for reasons I have come to understand and accept over the years. At least she likes nudity.

Anyway I am wondering if anyone else has had these feelings; that having your lover wearing the clothes you pick for yourself would be almost as much fun as wearing them yourself.

Andrea

Jan W · Post by **Jan W** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 3:21 pm

Dear Andrea,

I feel we choose clothes we find feminine and attractive. It follows that these same clothes would look great on our wives and increase our desire for them.

But as have been lamented time and time again most GG's don't experience the same thrill while wearing sexy or pretty clothes that we do.

I know that if I became a woman feminine clothing would not only be the norm but also one of the main reasons to transition.

However if I was born female I suspect I would be like our wives and the excitment of a girly outfit would sadly be lacking.

If you figure it out will you please explain it to me?

Love Jan

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 3:28 pm

I think, at least with my wife, it was her upbringing. Her mother used to make her clothes, and well, not particularly fem. Over time I think she just became comfortable in plain.

Of course, what looks good to me may, and usually, is not the same for her. And I'm not talking sexy either.

Then there's my daughter. One day, last year, I was pointing out some things I thought were sexy and, with her being 26 and very pretty, thought she might like. She dismissed them first hand.

Everyone has their own particular tastes I reckon.

Samantha Jane · Post by **Samantha Jane** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 6:17 pm

Hi Andrea,

I mentioned in a post awhile ago about a dress I brought from Newlook(UK) and then two weeks later my wife walked in with the very same one. She does not know about my CDing and so it was a huge coincidence.
She has yet to wear or even try the dress on. It will be intresting to see how I react and what my thoughts are, if she ever wears it that is.......!!!!!!!
My wife has a tendancy to impluse buy some clothes in the sales and then pass them on, with the the tags still attached. (unfortunately not to me)

The matching dress was an usual choice for her, as she tends to buy clothing that involves very little material, something I could not get away with.

Still I live in hope of seeing her wearing it.

Charlotte xx

Jabbela · Post by **Jabbela** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 8:27 am

CharlotteF wrote:My wife has a tendancy to impluse buy some clothes in the sales and then pass them on, with the the tags still attached. (unfortunately not to me)
Charlotte xx

Hi Charlotte,
you should consider to tell you wife about your CDing - you could safe a lot of money, when she passes these clothes to you

Unfortunatly, my wife (she knows) is not really one of the shopping ones (ok. this saves a lot of money - so this is not too bad). She would share her dresses with me - many items would fit - but currently she shops less than I do.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 8:41 am

Why a woman might feel differently about clothes

This is stuff I have learned from various women friends over the years.

1 choice
for many women the pressure to be beautiful/feminine gets very tiresome. We do this voluntarily, at least in that we are not crossdressing to conform to societies expectations. While I might get excited planning what to wear tomorrow, when you have to do this everyday knowing that inevitably judgements will be passed on you all day long based on your choice it can get old real fast.

2
upbringing and self image

wearing real sexy clothes may just clash with their upbringing. The 'don't look like slut" message is terribly deeply ingrained in some women. The closest corrolary to "slut" for men is punk-a man too weak (unmanly) to defend himself against unwanted homosexual advances. And if we are middle class types we don't really have to confront this fear too often. But many women have this nagging at them all the time.

Also they may just feel that if they can't look like a model in the sexy clothes then they are in fact ugly and feel embarrassed about how their efforts to look sexy have failed.

3
doing it for others.

I remember a woman who initailly liked wearing all sorts of sexy outfits to bed. After a while however she started feeling like he was making love to her clothes, not her.

Also she may feel that after all the other things she does for him can't she catch a break and just look like herself in this intimate moment.

Andrea

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 8:50 am

Andrea,
Very well said.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 4:20 pm

It appears that we have different "styles" depending on whether we are going out in publiic or staying in?! When Virgiia goes out she has a style that is described as "conservativly sexy." It can consist of knee length or slightly shorter,modestly tight skirt with a silk blouse and 21/2 to 3" heels. Nothing outrageous, but in so doing she tends to stand out in comparison to what other women are wearing, usually, jeans and a sweatshirt come to mind.
My wife who has demanded that she never see Virginia has seen most of her wardrobe and makes negative comments, however "consider the source!" I have had numerous positive comments from GG's, even being called elegeant.
Anyway the other day she tried to give me a sequiened cape like top that I would not wear to a mud-wrestling contest - It looked like something that a FemImp would wear on stage. I told her basically, "stop it!!!" She said she thought I would like it and that it was just too big for her! So be careful of SO's bearing gifts!
Vigrinia

Violet · Post by **Violet** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 4:34 pm

The closest corrolary to "slut" for men is punk-a man too weak (unmanly) to defend himself against unwanted homosexual advances.

'buh? That doesn't fit any definition of 'punk' that I've ever heard....

Anne · Post by **Anne** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 6:05 pm

Virginia wrote:My wife who has demanded that she never see Virginia has seen most of her wardrobe and makes negative comments, anyway the other day she tried to give me a sequiened cape like top that I would not wear to a mud-wrestling contest - It looked like something that a FemImp would wear on stage. I told her basically, "stop it!!!" She said she thought I would like it and that it was just too big for her! So be careful of SO's bearing gifts! Vigrinia

Seems like it was something positive - you might have received more acceptance if you had accepted the gift. Just a thought.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 9:22 am

I read that and was like YAY!!!

That was a bit of acceptance and then I was a bit shocked by your response to her.

Please don't get me wrong. The first thing my wife brought for me I hated.

It was a long jeans skirt. I thought it made me look fat and it hit my femme shape. I now wear it a lot.

All I'm saying is that was a good sign of her attempting to accept Virginia and either the male you or Virginia said get out of my life. That was my perception at least.

I support you and Virginia 100% either way. It's still weird for me to call you two people, but I'm learning.

Beauty

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Fri Feb 18, 2005 9:45 am

I think that use of punk is actually a Black thing but everyone around here seems to use it that way. My kids friends throw it around like as an all purpose insult the way we used the mom word when I was a kid. Alice Walker wrote an excellent essay about it and how men will go to any lengths to avoid the perception.

Andrea