Increasing her awareness

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Oct 10, 2004 12:01 am

Well, yesterday my wife and I were talking about places to go some weekend. I told her there was a convention in Provincetown, MA, and, figuring something was up, guardedly asked what kind of convention. I then explained a little about Fantasia Fair in Provincetown. This opened a dialog about our going out in public together. I then told her that there were several such outings around the country, and told her about the Lake Erie Gala (PA) and Transgender 2005 in Austin Tx (she's from Waco).

I told her that she should read the info on their web sites, and emailed her the URLs.

She knows I really can't get away to any of these places until at least 2006 and wondereed why I brought it up so early. I told her I didn't want to spring something like that on her, and wanted her to be more informed on what went on, especially the talks the SO's have.

I also told her for the first time about the CD forums online. She couldn't believe that Lane Bryant had one too.

She hasn't had time to read the info yet, but we continued the discussion this evening on our way out to Cirque du Soleil. I think she was a little infatuated with a couple of the acrobat guys that looked extreemly feminine in their attire and makeup. I dropped her off at work afterwards, and she said we'd talk some more.

I'm going to email her Dixie's web address, so she can be more informed.

I hope none of this backfires.

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Oct 10, 2004 2:23 pm

My wife got a horoscope online for Saturday, October 9:

Hers (aquarius)

A rather dramatic message is en route. Before you answer it, think carefully about the ripples that might result. One tiny word could cause a major rift between you and someone you respect.

mine Gemini,

Voicing your deepest feelings will come easily now -- maybe even a bit too easily. Be sure you're in company that will appreciate these sentiments before you get in too deep. There's something to be said for discretion, right?

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sun Oct 10, 2004 4:36 pm

HI Donna,

You may find it interesting to know that astrology was invented when it was still thought that the planets and sun orbited the earth, and the stars were just static in a substance called aether.

Being a transendentalist I do believe that us and the planets, and the stars are all part of one greater thing, so I do not discount the possibility that our lives may be in some way linked to the motion of the planets, however I must say that I don't believe in the ability of any mere mortal to say just exactly what that link may be or how it many affect our lives

You may find it much more interesting to read your horoscope one day late. Or? End your horoscope and fortunes from fortune cookies with "in bed".

For instance:

DonnT wrote:

Voicing your deepest feelings will come easily now -- maybe even a bit too easily. Be sure you're in company that will appreciate these sentiments before you get in too deep."in bed"

It can be quite funny, particularly with fortune cookies.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Oct 11, 2004 12:20 am

Cool Elizabeth. The horoscope she sent me was after our initial conversation and a bit ironic.

Candice · Post by **Candice** » Mon Oct 11, 2004 11:08 am

i don't think i havent read one of my horoscopes that weren't ironic or completely describing my exact stance within that day...mine are always intense too, it's like someone is following me around and jotting this about me...hah...

good luck with your wife, you have my support!

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Oct 11, 2004 10:28 pm

Thanks, it's gonna be a long road with lots of detours.

Right now, she says she doesn't want to compete with another woman in the house.

She feels pressured, even though all I asked her to do was read some things and consider going in 2006.

I told her it was all up to her, as I wouldn't go without her.

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Oct 12, 2004 8:00 am

Well she came home this morning in a better mood than when she went to work last night. She was a little cryptic and smiling said I had two years too.

Baby steps

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Oct 15, 2004 12:41 pm

I wonder if my wife is giving more hints. She sent the following:

Here is your horoscope for Wednesday, October 13:

For Aquarius,

Expect the volume -- and the emotional intensity -- to be turned way, way up during a conversation with a dear one. That doesn't mean a peaceful ending isn't possible -- but you'll have to work hard on a compromise.

For Gemini,

You can entice anyone to do anything now. Does that mean you should? Well, if you're sure you'll both enjoy the adventure equally, why not? You can always ask before you start, yes?

Post by **DonnaT** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 7:58 am

Well we had a pretty good talk this morning. Seems neither of us could sleep. She's leaning to attending a Tri-Ess meeting, or similar. Now to find one near No. VA.

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Mar 20, 2005 9:24 pm

Thanks Geri.

She's signed up for this site, but has never posted nor informed Sharon that she's an SO. The way I found out she signed up was she used my AOL address instead of hers. Don't know why.

When we talked today she said she didn't have anyone to talk to, but I did. I reminded her that she can talk on here just like I can.

I'll let her know about the other too.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon Mar 21, 2005 8:11 am

Hi Donna,

It sounds like she's beginning to accept you and cope with this as we've read other SOs have.

Did you tell her early into your relationship or later?

Please have her send a PM to Sharon or she can PM me and I'll add her to the SO group so she can at least view it.

I'm glad you two are talking. I'm glad you're being you and not changing, but more than that I'm happy you're listening to her. I wish you both the absolute best. You've made it this far in life together. This could be a wild ride, but you two are examples for all of us when it comes to staying married, so you already know the wild rides stuff.

Wishing you both the best,
Beauty

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Mar 21, 2005 11:28 am

Thanks Beauty,

She joined on Dec. 4, last year. I think she just doesn't want to discuss our "personal" life on the internet. Which is one of the reason's she wants me to stop posting.

However, I'll let her know, again, what she can do if she feels like it.

I wanted to join TGEA also, and have her join as well, so she'd have other SO's to talk to, but again she is hesitant.