What does it mean to you to be a Crossdresser?

Tristen Cox · Post by **Tristen Cox** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 1:39 am

To me crossdressing allows me to enjoy the benefit of both worlds, male and female. It gives me freedom to express how I feel. At the same time it does mean I still have to make certain compromises like making time to be dressed which only bothers me if there are lots of things to do. It's always been a private thing, although a wonderful way to relax and let the stress go. Just wondering what this lifestyle means to the other ladies here. Thanks in advance for any replies.

Love
Tristen

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 4:57 am

Hi Tristen,

I agree. Being transgendered allows me to be free to express the feminine and masculine sides of who I am. This is an expression of myself and so I feel really good about who I am when I'm thinking about dressing, dressing (which these days doesn't mean hose, heels, and makeup), thinking about my last dressing episode, sharing my life experiences, or reading others. I guess that encompasses a lot, but my lifestyle means the world to me because it's self-acceptance.

Great thread Tristen. Thank you so much for posting it.

Beauty

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 11:59 am

It allows me to experience things some guys will never experience, and allows me to enjoy it as well.

Joanna_S · Post by **Joanna_S** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 12:07 pm

Hi Tristen!

I love everything in crossdressing. Shaving, peeling and moisturizing my body, the scent of makeup products when doing my make up, feeling the bra around my chest, my profile wearing a tight sweater,my breasts moving when I walk, the softness of my underwear, the gloss of my pantyhose.....etc,etc. Many many reasons, as you know ladies

Of course CDing has a more profound meaning to me. If Joanna can´t express herself on a regular basis, my life gets miserable. Crossdressing is something that makes my life worth living.( Of course there are other things too)

Joanna

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 12:37 pm

What does crossdressing mean to me? Whoa!

Early in my life, it meant I was the strangest little boy on the planet. It frightened, yet somehow entangled me in it's grip. Later, when I found I wasn't the only one, I was suddenly part of a minority group feared by the masses as somehow perverted and for me, more fear. Perhaps discovery! But still, the attraction grew and grew. I needed more time to explore the unknown and make it my known.

In grade schoold through high school, I learned the pain of envy! Envious of the girls in my school who wore fabulous dresses with full skirts, petticoats crinkling underneath. How they took it all for granted, and of course they would. It for them just was following fashion. It just was.

In college, I learned greater fear. It was a time of life when manly was paramount! Testesterone flowed free in the males in my age group. Anything unmanly was rigorously chastized and hated by 'real men.' Cartoons played fools of men who wore women's clothing. If only I could have released myself from the bonds of crossdressing....

Marriage.....finally the spell would be broken and I would be free of the burden of crossdressing! But no...it's grip too tight, my self worth diminishing more each episode. Then divorce. Crossdressing had won. I wasn't much of a man. I was to be loathed. Now everyone would know, surely she would spread the word. What a freak!

Through all the turmoil of life to that point, crossdressing gripped me tighter and tighter. Why? Crossdressing was such confusion, such pain, such pleasure and so important. It was so many unanswered questions!

Then the internet! I found I had a new name. I was no longer required to call myself a transvestite. I was a crossdresser! I wasn't alone, far from it. I was not an associate of creeps and perverts! These were nice people, most of them. We all were searching for answers and now we were starting to figure some of them out.

I found a new love in my life. She was....special to me. Crossdressing meant I would lose her I feared. But it didn't work like that. She listened...she learned....she told me "it just is." Hmmm....it just is?

What is crossdressing to me. It has been, and always shall be part of who I am.

What I have become and what I will be, is shaped at least in part because I am a crossdresser. It's not a game, not a habit, not a passing fancy. It just is.

I still have fears. I have questions. I still have doubts. But I think I turned out pretty well as a man, and very well as a person. Crossdressing to me? It's just me.

Joanna_S · Post by **Joanna_S** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 1:07 pm

Wow, Hope...you said it all. I´m speechless...

Joanna

Estefania · Post by **Estefania** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 1:10 pm

Hope,

(That is, in case you were wondering a standing ovation!!)

You gave a great answer! CDing is indeed a part of who we are. Not a blessing, not a curse, just part of who we are. Not who we are.

Great, great answer!

Gaby

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 7:37 pm

Hi Hope,

Wow! I have to agree with everyone. That was a fantastic post!

Beauty

Paige · Post by **Paige** » Tue Apr 12, 2005 8:35 pm

Hope,

I loved your answer. Your post put into words many of my thoughts and feelings. Thank you for expressing them,

Paige

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Wed Apr 13, 2005 3:53 am

Wow Hope,

What a beautiful addition you are to this forum. Very beautifully put.

Love Darlene.

Claire D · Post by **Claire D** » Wed Apr 13, 2005 4:37 am

That was totaly AWESOME. Well done

Kersten Lee · Post by **Kersten Lee** » Wed Apr 13, 2005 9:20 pm

Hi,

I don't like being a hanger on, but I too have to say that Hope described me pretty close. Everyone said things true for me. I am what I am. It is much better, when now I can enjoy all the things that I am. Some of those favoite things Joanna S mentioned.

Kersten

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Wed Apr 13, 2005 10:02 pm

Goodness, thank you everyone. I was afraid I might have rambled a bit but I guess it's struck a chord.

It is total irony I think that what makes us feel so wonderful at times can be so painful for most of our adult lives. I just wish everyone could somehow understand our choices are not necessarily voluntary. Who IN THEIR RIGHT MIND would choose to endure so much torment and pain for the moments of pleasure and contentment.

I think it's a bit of a blessing for us though. Perhaps we can appreciate the feelings of the gay community, or any minority for that matter.

Silver linings are hard to find sometimes....don't miss it.

Thanks again everyone....It's nice to share thoughts with an appreciative group.

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Wed Apr 13, 2005 11:47 pm

Tristen Cox wrote:To me crossdressing allows me to enjoy the benefit of both worlds, male and female. It gives me freedom to express how I feel. At the same time it does mean I still have to make certain compromises like making time to be dressed which only bothers me if there are lots of things to do. It's always been a private thing, although a wonderful way to relax and let the stress go. Just wondering what this lifestyle means to the other ladies here. Thanks in advance for any replies.

Love
Tristen

Hi Tristen,

That is me in a nutshell!!

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Thu Apr 14, 2005 7:12 am

actually I am still trying to figure out what it means. But I have a sense that it is what I do, not who I am, although of course it is a part of who I am as well

Andrea

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