What do you consider yourself?

Erin · Post by **Erin** » Wed Apr 27, 2005 9:03 pm

Hi all!
First, I answered the poll as straight, however, I will say that seeing some of the beautiful girls who inhabit this forum, I could be persuaded to rethink that position.
Since I joined this site I have come to realize that there are some truly amazing CDers out there!
My highest regards and compliments to all who have posted pics! As soon as I figure out how to get pics of myself, I will join in the fun of sharing that too.
Thanks to all the supportive girls out there!
Kisses,
Erin

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Sun May 08, 2005 10:46 pm

I voted. ##oo##

Hugs,
Kyra

and you'll never know!

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon May 09, 2005 7:43 am

Kyra wrote:I voted. ##oo##

Hugs,
Kyra

and you'll never know!

Post by **Celia** » Mon May 09, 2005 2:42 pm

I wasn't sure how to answer this one, myself. The simple answer would be straight, but I seem to differ with a lot of TG's on the question of who I would be attracted to if I were to transition, have SRS, etc. When I'm solidly in boy-mode, few things seem as attractive to me as being with a woman, few as distasteful as being with a man. Yet, if I were to live as a woman (with all the obvious anatomy - if not some of the more important but subtle), I don't really see how being with a woman physically would interest me. The aggregate anatomy isn't complementary - it's redundant. And being both a TS and a Lesbian really narrows the field. My sex life gathers enough cobwebs as it is. And, besides, if my y-chromosome had been an x, do I really think I would have been Lesbian? Neither of my sisters is . . .

For me, men and women together sizzle, men and men fizzle (ditto for women and women). If Celia ever makes the jump, she'll most likely couple with someone of the masculine persuasion.

-Celia

FrancineBrice · Post by **FrancineBrice** » Fri May 20, 2005 10:35 am

To me, bisexuality is mostly about just being open to totally loving people without caring about superficial things like gender - you really look at the true person, their spirit - and being able to express that love physically without worrying about social expectations of appropriate behaviour.

Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places. [/b]

Daniel · Post by **Daniel** » Sat May 28, 2005 8:49 pm

I am straight. Some people apparently think they're gay because they enjoy female company more than male, or they like women's clothing... but I, on the other hand, judge my sexual orientation by who I am attracted to. And with me, it's ALWAYS been girls - since PRESCHOOL. Although, things in the pants department only began to respond around the age of 14.

Kerri · Post by **Kerri** » Sun May 29, 2005 2:05 pm

Hiya,
I think I must be on that curve I read about above. I am attracted to both sexes, but I am not in my definition bisexual. To be sexual you need to be active in that mode.

In the average month I see about half a dozen girls I feel physically attracted to and one guy. It used to freek me out feeling that way about a guy, but since I joined this forum I have more at ease with my feelings.

tara
Kerri

Allena · Post by **Allena** » Thu Jun 09, 2005 8:41 am

I voted in the 'I don't know' category.

Like others, I have wrestled with the question of being gay, bisexual, heterosexual in relation to my crossdressing and gender issues.

I have had only a couple of gay experiences.
Any fantasies I've had about sex with men, usually put me in a 'women's' position.
I believe i misinterpreted these fantasies as being exclusively homosexual, when in fact I now understand how they are connected with my long-standing feelings of transgenderism (is there such a word?)

You can thank me later...

...I just erased a WHOLE lot of personal stuff I was typing up.
I think the above says enough!

Stephanie Higgins · Post by **Stephanie Higgins** » Thu Jun 09, 2005 10:46 am

I'm not sure yet of my sex life... since it hasnt arrived yet
but..
I do know that I often have feelings for both males and females

I have feelings for many of my friends (males) but I have never said a word
recently I met the cutest guy online and I sorta fell for him ^_^;

and before that I was involved with a nice girl (now a really really good friend)

So I voted for bisexual ^_^;

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu Jun 09, 2005 12:10 pm

Hi Allen,

Thanks for being open and honest with us. Now I have a question? :cringing: You so better read this the right way.

I'm counting on you hearing this as a question and not an accusation.

Sexual means having sex to me. Heterosexual means only having sex with a person of the opposite sex and homosexual means having sex with the same sex that you are.

I've asked this before and was told a very interesting answer, but I want to get your view on it. If you've had sex with a male before and you've had sex with a female before and you find that you are still attracted to both, doesn't that mean you're bi-sexual? I can understand not being comfy with that because it's a label, right? Personally I don't see anything wrong with it if you're safe. I'm just curious how you ... I so swear I'm not challenging you... I'm even reading this as I mean it and to convey what that means I'm talking very slowly and questioning everything I'm saying, not stating it like it's fact. I'm also asking while holding your virtual hand.

I'm just curious to know how you can't know you're bi-sexual when you've had sex with both sexes?

I can understand how a gay person who has had sex with a female and says, "There's something not right here." can say I don't know and then have sex with a man and go, "Found it!"

Then call himself gay.

Are you saying that you don't know because maybe you want to transition?

Heeeeeelp!!!!

Beauty

Sheena · Post by **Sheena** » Tue Jun 14, 2005 7:21 am

Thats a hard one, cause I go through bouts of depression and loneliness, and I take who is ever on offer.
I picture myself as being straight, but I have been with the same sex a few times. Bi maybe? Its a toughy though. I dont fancy guys though.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Wed Jun 15, 2005 3:14 am

I must have missed this thread somehow !

I am a Hetrosexual that has drifted out of orbit , NO! not towards homosexuality or bisexuality but just out of the game completely.

The sexual side of my marriage has long since gone and I dont really care , I'm still sexualy attracted to women but I have no interest in following it up.

I guess that means I'm bordering Hetrosexuality / A-sexuality

I have no interest in men whatsoever .

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Wed Jun 15, 2005 12:34 pm

I checked bisexual. It's pretty easy for me to keep the two worlds separated. I mainly react to men being attracted to me, the T-girl, because I understand that attraction to women so well.

LaDonna · Post by **LaDonna** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 8:55 am

Well. I have to comment on this.
I do not believe in labels, as far as sexual orientation is concerned.
As the world turns, I would be considered hetero-sexual. But, in the right situation, who knows.
If I decided to experiment ( unlikely), I would not want the label of bi-sexual hung on me.
If I was a tennis player, and one day tried my hand at golf, I would not consider my self a golfer. You might say I was a sportsman.
In the same respect, if I tried same sex with someone, you might say I was sexual.
I would not say any of these. I would say I am a human being, living life as it comes to me.
I know this is a controversial subject, and is open to argumet on many levels. When it comes down to the nitty-gritty I think what is important is how you visualize yourself.
Even at my age I still do not understand a lot of views on sexuality.
For instance, why is it so important for some to display their sexuality on the streets.
By this I mean, why do some people feel like they have to go out in public and be all over each other? I feel like people who are displaying their sexual preference in public, or affection, are unsure of it themselves.
I think sex, in any form, is a private thing, and should be kept private, and however you choose to obtain sexual gratification doesn't need a label. It's, plain and simple, just sex.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 3:22 pm

LaDonna wrote: If I decided to experiment ( unlikely), I would not want the label of bi-sexual hung on me.
If I was a tennis player, and one day tried my hand at golf, I would not consider my self a golfer.

Interesting analogy LaDonna , you have opened my mind to a different angle of view , when you stop to think about it there are Gay men who start having sex with women and find that straight life is not for them.
As the song goes " cant get no , satisfaction " , they go on to homosexuality and find there place.
The Homosexual community doesn't consider them straight or Bi just because they had opposite sex in the begining.

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