Another Missed Opportunity

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Wed Jun 08, 2005 11:03 pm

The very same friend of 4+ years whose bridal shower I am attending this Sunday would have made the perfect wife for yours truly.

I’m probably way off base here but I just can’t help but feeling very depressed at yet another lost opportunity. I am so tired of tossing my feelings aside for the purpose of “logic” and what “makes sense” and what’s “the right thing”.

How much longer will I have to do this? When am I ever going to be allowed to TRULY express what I feel in this world? I have to confess: repressing my true feelings all for the sake of “playing it smart" is really starting to suffocate me.

But hey, it’s too late to do anything about it now...

More repressed feelings for me to live with – oh joy…

This woman would have most certainly not only totally accepted Lorna but also If there was only one woman in this world I know I would have had a chance with, it was her. Tears well up in my eyes as I look at photos of this beautiful person. I think of what could have been.

But once again, it’s time to face reality. That ship has now sailed.

I don't know... it just hurts.... I'm getting tired of "missing the boat". I'm not getting younger. It's time to face facts here.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu Jun 09, 2005 5:14 am

Allena · Post by **Allena** » Thu Jun 09, 2005 7:56 am

Sorry to hear you feeling so sad.

To me though, the fact that you have relationships with women you like and enjoy being around seems encouraging.

You're ability to relate with people the way you do, shows something special about you.
I see an honesty and sincerity in you that makes even internet friends, like you!

You do have a strength that I see will carry you through this.

Thanks for sharing Lorna!

... me too!

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Fri Jun 10, 2005 11:45 pm

Beauty, Allen, thanks so much

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 12:29 am

That is hard, Lorna, and I feel the pain from here. But ships that sail often come back to port--sadly, there are a lot of divorces in this country.
However, I'm not suggesting you wait for that. As far as women for you--who knows who is out there? If you want to express more of who you are, please, please, get back into the stand-up! Your audience is waiting for you.
Anita

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 1:21 am

Lorna,

It is impossible for me to beleive that Miss Right is not out there waiting to find you. I just know that there are plenty of women who would love to have someone like you.

Too many times in my life I watched the other guy get the girl I wanted because I did not want to ruin the friendship. I wanted to be the one guy who she could be comforttable with, someone who was not going to come on to her.

And I would imagine what it would be like for her to be mine. But always lacking the sefl confidence to make a move. Always feeling inferior and beleiving that if I asked her I would not only get turned down, but I would ruin the friendship.

But after about a zillion times I figured something out. Girls like men who come on to them. They love men who are aggressive and confident. They want someone who truly desires them. And there can be no greater romance than with someone you are already friends with.

But I had to be selfish. I had to say that my need to have the woman I wanted outweighed her need to have a male friend that did not come on to her. I was going to have to risk the friendship to get what I wanted.

But ironically, I never carried it out. Once I made the decision that I was willing to risk the friendship, I never made friends with a girl before I made my move letting her know I was interested in more than frienship.

Lorna, time to allow yourself to be selfish. Put your needs on the top of the list instead of the middle or last on the list. I have always beleived that what you get out of life is directly proportional to what you are willing to risk.

I hope this helps.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 3:45 am

As one who did it hard in my 20's I can understand your pain Lorna , I was a chick repellant if ever there was one.

I probably had about a thousand girls knock me back over a ten / eleven year period , I was consistantly insulted by many of the rejection speach's.
I was at the stage of believing that I would never have a relationship , I was still a virgin at age 28.

I am now married , it came at a price , the death of a best friend.

My wife was my best friends new girlfriend.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 8:25 am

Lorna,
Honey, me and my sisters do feel your pain. Having read your posts for years and seeing you bounce back from every "downer" you are an impressive young lady! That being said you know you will need to find a gg that is not only open minded, but one with enought backbone to stand beside you because as we all know you very rarely mince words and I for one admire you for that. You know the old saying, "we chase girls until they catch us!" I have no doubt that there is someone out there for you, some one who will respect your strengths and understand your "gift" and support Lorna. Good luck, good "hunting" and take your time in choosing, because as you know, the wrong choice can be devistating. Be Lorna, be open, be honest and you will find that soul-mate!
Love ya,
Virginia

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 6:37 pm

Hi Lorna,

I have to agree with Elizabeth and Virginia. She's out there. Like you want to hear that from me. Well ya' did.

Beauty

:: runs ::