E-mail sent . . .

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Jun 12, 2005 3:46 pm

. . . a few minutes ago.

My wife commented last night that she thought I would have gone to the DC pride, but I had other commitments.

Then she asked last night why I hadn't told our daughter yet. Well my wife's the one that held me back.

So a few minutes ago, I sent my daughter an email.

Now it wasn't fully disclosing, and only said: "Here's a picture of a relative your mother thought you should meet." And included a head shot similar to my avatar.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Jun 12, 2005 4:00 pm

Hi Donna,

Congrats!!!

I can't wait to hear how things went!!!

Beauty

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Sun Jun 12, 2005 4:01 pm

Donna ,

I presume that your daughter doesn't know about Donna ,

I will cross my fingers and pray that she takes it well

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sun Jun 12, 2005 7:50 pm

Like a chess game huh? Donna? You make a move then they make a move, but I have always believed in the game - as long as you got a move you are not in "checkmate!" Gotta say your opening gambit is an interesting one. A lot of us will definitely be interested in how your daughter responds!
Please keep us posted!
Love,
virginia

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 8:52 am

Thanks everyone.

Still no response to the email yet. She's not usually a fast responder, an unlike AOL email, I can't check to see if she's read it yet.

Bernice P · Post by **Bernice P** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 4:00 pm

No matter how she responds, our hearts go out to you

Bernice P

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 6:38 pm

Is that wait tough or a relief? I'm hoping by the time you read this though she will have called or have contacted you.

Beauty

Allena · Post by **Allena** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 8:10 pm

Not knowing how you look as your male image, do you figure your daughter will recognize you?

If she does, is it possible she might take the picture as a joke?

I wish you well also!

I just finished a book where the last two or so stories dealt with Fathers who had GRS/SRS and how their children responded.

I do hope your 'coming out' goes alright.
It really tears me up to see families go through so much pain over this issue!

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Jun 13, 2005 9:42 pm

Thanks for the support everyone.

Nothing yet.

BTW, I wear glasses regularly. So, no my male image looks nothing like my avatar. But if she already has some idea that I CD, like my son did, then she might put 2 and 2 together. That, plus the Xmas gifts that were labeled DonnaT from my wife

Post by **DonnaT** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 9:54 pm

LIARS!

My Avatar does not pass!!

My daughter was on the phne with my wife this evening. We are planning a trip to TX for my in-laws 50th wedding anniversary.

My daughter does not want to go. She was in "heated conversation" with my wife and commented that she wasn't interested in seeing that side of the family, especially the "drag queen"

She thought it was an uncle or something.

So, my question is, why did she say "drag queen"? What tipped her off that the picture was a male in a wig and makeup?

Anyway, the good news is/was, she didn't recognize me.
Which is why she didn't repond to my email.

In response to her drag queen remark, my wife said that it wasn't a cousin nor an uncle. That's your father.

My daughter and I have yet to talk about it, but it's coming.

Jennifer · Post by **Jennifer** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 10:09 pm

Well Donna, the cat's out of the bag and there is no turning back. I hope when you finally get to talk she will at least listen to what you have to say. If it goes anything like it did with my daughter there were lots of tears, most of them mine. In the end everything worked out, I wish you the same.

CJ · Post by CJ » Wed Jun 22, 2005 10:10 pm

Hi all,

Donna,

I'm keeping my fingers crossed, here! Still, you can bet your bippy that your daughter will not be referring to you as a drag queen! I can't wait to see how this goes. My hopes are high for your family. Kudos to your wife, too, for being open about this!

Love,
CJ

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 10:18 pm

Good luck Donna.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 5:58 am

Hi Donna,

I'm not sure if you're smiling/laughing and it stings a bit or if you're really like, "lol! whatever?!?" when it comes to your daughter's response.

Are you really asking about what it is about your photo/avatar that let her see it was a male? As in, you want opinions? If you say something sarcastic, "I'm so going to pinch you in the arm." I honestly can't tell.

Regardless, I'm a bit phased by her response as reading it caused my mouth to open and my face was a bit in shock. That's just me though. I agree with CJ about your wife. Wow.. she handled that really well.

I wish you the best. We'll be here regardless.

Beauty

Honey(SO) · Post by **Honey(SO)** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 7:58 am

Donna, what a treasure you have in your wife....as for your daughter, give her a chance to come to understand all of this. I do remember when my husband told me his story all I knew about crossdressers was what I had seen in 'drag shows' and my false assumption that CD's were gay.
Unless you live in a very progressive town I don't think the average person knows much about all of this. And unless you have a need or desire to learn more you will walk around with blinders on.
There are lots of sites full of information for a 'newbie' just learning about this.

Hope your daughter accepts/understands, we too are wrestling with the thought of telling some of our children, not an easy choice....

Hugs to you and your wife.

Honey (SO)