Different kinds of CDs ?

MariaA · Post by **MariaA** » Thu Aug 18, 2005 6:37 pm

Hello girs. I've been gone for a while. I want to start a discussion about the different types of reasons behind the CD experience. It seems to me that there are different types of CDs and is all around the reason why we do it. In my case, the more I try to compare myself with other CDs the more I realize these differnces. In my case my CDing is really triggered by a sexual fetish, I think. When I am not in a sexual mood I don't have the tingling in the stomach about CDing that you girls talk but as soon as I get in a mood the dressing idea moves right into my mind. What are other peoples experince on this ?

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Thu Aug 18, 2005 7:43 pm

Hi MariaA,

Crossdressing is something I do, because I must. I identify with the feminine gender role much more than the male gender role I was assigned at birth. I do it because I feel uncomfortable in male clothes, because it identifies me to the world as being something I am not.

While I am married and do have a fairly normal relationship with my wife. When I say that I mean we interact as a husband and wife, although to others on the outside it may appear we are a wife and wife team. But I am her provider, protector, lover and friend.

There is no sexual component to my dressing, in that I don't feel particularly aroused by dressing, nor do I need or desire to be dressed dressed during love making. Which is not to say I never do it, I just mean it is not an issue. If my wife wants to get frisky when we are not in bed, I don't say "wait let me get out of this clothes and makeup".

My crossdressing never was about getting turned on, which is also not to say I was never turned on by it. Once I hit puberty, I many times found it to be quite a turn on, but at that age and with all those hormones running through my body, it did not take a whole lot to get me turned on.

I am quite certain I am in the TS to TG range. I enjoy living my life in women's clothes, makeup, accessories, indeed to be mistaken for a woman would be just fine with me, but is also not necessary. I have never felt male and while I don't know what it means to be a woman or to feel like one. I know I like my role in society as well as my personal life better as I am now.

What kind of crossdresser am I? I am a full time dresser who will never transition. I love this role and I love who I am.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Sallee · Post by **Sallee** » Thu Aug 18, 2005 11:50 pm

Interesting topic.
I have often thought, and I know with a lot of us it is verbton to discuss, that CDing is a fetish. For most of us it began at puberty when the sexual hormones began kicking in. I will bet about all of us get or have gotten a sexual turn on from dressing. Now maybe the sexual things goes away as we age and the cross dressing stays around because it is fun and we just write it off as fun. Thas Ok I will bet for most of us there is definately some sexual satisfaction from dressing.
Sexual turns are just not talked about and as a result we call cross dressing a hobby (not like stamp collecting) therefore it is just fun and we refuse to admit it is a turn on.
Well I'll admit it crossdressing is a sexual turn on for me. I don't necessarily always have sex (darn) but I still get turned on.
I don't consider that a bad thing.
I also believe that maybe, true transexuals, those born in the wrong body may not find it a turn on. I am not one that believes in surgery if it can be avoided but I am sure some TS's require it but not all who get it.
Hope I didn't often any one. It is just one CD's opinion. Sorry if I did...........Sallee

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Aug 19, 2005 3:57 am

Hi Maria,

These days there seems to be a movement in the TG'd community to label those who have a sexual interest only or primarily dressing as transvestites. Now this term really means crossdresser, but it's interesting how it is being interpreted now.

I think both CD'rs and TVs get some sort of sexual release from dressing, but TVs say, "Dressing to feel sexy is all it is to me". A TV would get dressed just for sex where as a CDr would have sex dressed, but also probably where's women's undies all the time and not be aroused when wearing them.

The bottom line is the labels might not be their yet, but you're right there are multiple waves of CD'rs.

Beauty

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Aug 19, 2005 10:45 am

Well, let's just take the "universe" that we "crossdressers only" live in. How many approaches do we have??? I think --many. I am sure that there are those of us within our universe that even have some difficulty in understanding why some of our sisters do what they do even within our own realm. Since my scars are healing over my last foray to the wood shed, and I have some caluses, I will site two of mine. To begin with let me make it perfectly clear, I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AGAINST MY SISTERS WHO PURSUE THIS, BLESS 'EM IF THAT IS THEIR ENJOYMENT. IT IS THERE LIFE AND I WILL NOT JUDGE THEM. I am only saying that I, me, Virginia just can not quite grasp their indulgence of this. First, our sister who does not plan to transisiton, but yet had breast implants. Second, those of us who wear bras under our "en drab" clothing. Granted some may need the support for what ever reason, but if you don't. Don't say it is like wearing panties - at least to me it isn't the same thing. Need I reiterate, I THINK IT IS GREAT THAT THOSE WHO PURSUE THIS ENJOY IT AND I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AGAINST IT, I JUST HAVE TROUBLE UNDERSTANDING IT. I like to go out when "en drab" with a spritz of perfume, a touch of make-up, some masacre, neutral eye shadow, neutral nail polish, lip gloss. I do shave arms and legs and hands too!
Keep the faith, ladies!
Virginia

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Fri Aug 19, 2005 2:08 pm

Hi girls,

I think Virginia is on to something when she says

Virginia wrote:

I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AGAINST IT, I JUST HAVE TROUBLE UNDERSTANDING IT.

It seems crossdressers are like fingerprints, no two are quite the same. It seems we all experience this in our own way and have our own experience while having our own needs met.

It is somewhat strange to me that while we all share this need to do this, we all have different motivations and/or needs and meet them in a whole variety of ways. There does not seem to be a right way to do this, although perhaps we all secretly regard our own way as the "right" way to be a crossdresser.

I would hope that all crossdressers everywhere are able to fulfill thier own needs, that is if they know what they are. And for those who don't know, I would hope they get the chance to explore this part of themselves to find out what thier needs are.

Funny how crossdressing makes us all the same, yet we are still all different.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Aug 19, 2005 5:05 pm

Hi Virginia,

Did you say you hate me?

I'm SOOOO KIDDING!!!!

The mischievous part of me just couldn't resist. That was a great post, btw.

Beauty

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Fri Aug 19, 2005 8:17 pm

Well for the first 35 years of my life my cross dressing was driven by a sexual machine. After sex I could not stand to continue wearing the clothing, and was quilt ridden about it.

Finally that kind of a life became unacceptable for me, and I quit for eight years. When I restarted I discovered other pleasures that have become the reason I never want to be without my feminine clothing again.

Most of the things I have seen written I have ether done or fantasized about doing, (not all). So for most of it I have an understanding about it from having been there done that sort of thing. There are other things people do that I (like Virginia) can not understand. But I can’t go as far as saying that it is alright, because it was not alright for me to continue with that kind of a life.

I can go as far as saying that for those who are where I once was; it is not my problem. And because it is not my problem I have no reason to judge them.

I have recently been labeled as a private person and asked about my inner dialog here. (And I do not have a problem with that) While there is more to this (my experience as described above,) and why I was able to make the change. Many of you would not like the answer. I simply share my experiences and leave it up to you to find your answer.

If anyone wishes to PM me with a legitimate request I will gladly supply the answer. But be warned some of you will not like it. It is just something I will not push, unless you open the door.

In conclusion I want to take this time to speak well of my Sis (Virginia) Honey I am very impressed that in spite of your wounds from your recent foray you have continued to post and be apart of this community. That speaks volumes.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 1:28 am

Hi girls,

Darlene wrote:

I have recently been labeled as a private person and asked about my inner dialog here.

Elizabeth wrote:

I know you are a private person, but perhaps you could expand on this?

Darlene,

It was never my intention to try to label or pigeon hole you. My comment was only meant out of respect for your privacy and to let you know I was not trying to pry into any part of your life that you did not intend to express here on the forum.

Sorry for the improper diction.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 2:45 am

Thank you; your diction was fine Elizabeth.

I answered you the way I did out of my respect for who you are.

I included the sentence below for the benefit of those who might not have read your intent the way you meant it.

Darlene wrote: I have recently been labeled as a private person and asked about my inner dialog here. (And I do not have a problem with that)

I enjoy the kind dialog you and I have on this forum.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 6:02 am

Hi Darlene,

I have been really amazed by how much you've opened up over the past year. I'm glad it's in your comfort zone because I think we should all live inside our comfort zone and challenge ourselves when we want to or when we feel it's right. No one is dragging me out of my comfort zone but me and so I respect anyone who does that too.

Regardless honey, I just wanted to tell you I'm amazed by some of the things you've told us about you. I never thought I'd hear some of the things you've said and I'm really proud of you for telling us more about you. Don't worry, you're still a mystery.

Ok, ok.. I hear you in my head saying, "I'm not worried."

Beauty

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 2:41 pm

Thanks Beauty,

I learned along time ago that if one is not willing to (occasionally) move out of their comfort zone, they will eventually find themselves in a more painful place, which forces them out of it.

Also I want to point out that with the kind of administration you are now providing, it sets the scene or in other words provides the environment for one to be open. And that in my opinion; this is becoming one of the healthier cross-dressing sites to be found on the web.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 4:38 pm

Awwwww... you are so sweet.

Thank you!!!

I think it's everyone here, like you, that's making the reeeal difference.

Beauty

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:08 pm

Hi girls,

Darlene wrote:

Also I want to point out that with the kind of administration you are now providing, it sets the scene or in other words provides the environment for one to be open. And that in my opinion; this is becoming one of the healthier cross-dressing sites to be found on the web.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Aug 20, 2005 5:32 pm

Thank you!!!

Now back to Maria's topic.

Beauty