When I first joined the british tg group "The Beaumont Society" in June 1983 I didn't have a femme name. When asked what my femme name was I said "What do I need that for?" as far as I was concerned my name was Jim and that was that.
But they were a very persistant lot in the BS, they frowned upon my preference to drink beer in pint glasses and for smoking a pipe with my best frock on, too!
So to keep them quiet, I chose "June" cos thats what date it was. I didn't much like that name so changed it later to Margaret, I didn't much like that either so changed it to Jenny, my pet dog at the time was called Jenny.
When I logged onto this site last year I had been going through a difficult patch with depression, and needed a new name. So I typed the surname of an old airforce chum into Google, and choose the first associated female name to appear "Kerri" I kind of like that name, so I will stick with it.
I could never use a family name, to me that would be to disrespect that person. My view. No offense intended to anyone.
Take care
love to all
Kerri