When I first started dressing it was lots of corsets and similar sexy stuff. Quickly I discovered most of them weren't very comfortable and stopped wearing them after the sexual thrill wore off. I threw all but one of them out. I moved on to shapewear, much more comfortable but still confining and makes me feel both held and controlled by my clothing and still find it exciting sometimes but don't wear it that much anymore. Still own some of it though.
Then it was regular underwear with womens clothes with the accent on sexy but not revealing. I never liked the "slut look" on myself even though I enjoy it on women. Still a thrill but moving ever farther away from the confinement aspect and I won't wear them if they aren't comfortable. And I do like them sort of clingy still.
More and more though I find that I don't even like those as much any more. When I pick out my outfit for the day after my family leaves I have started to think/feel in terms of does this express what my female side would be like as opposed to what kind of a thrill does it give me. I guess you could say I am dressing like myself rather than as a sexual fantasy of some woman I would like to be seduced by if I was single which is what my earlier clothing schemes reflected. Now I dressing more like a woman that I might want as a buddy. I find I really enjoy mixing male and female clothing, with the casual skirt and guy teeshirt I wore earlier today a great example.
If find myself asking how does the clothing express the kind of person I would hope I would be if I was a woman, which is mostly like the kind of person I am as a guy?
There are some changes from who I am now though. She would be less angry and less afraid of people. More cheerful and pleasant deep down inside. Except for the anger (that most acceptable of all male feelings) these are all things I have been happy to see decrease in my male persona anyway. And I'm glad anger is less, just don't want to say goodbye to it altogether yet. But what I think of as my female persona would have far less of it. People would find her easy to be around even as she made up her own mind about everything.And BTW the more I think about this the more I realize that she is an awful lot like my wife.
Andrea
It's good to see that you aren't afraid to say you still dress sexy, but it's not slutty. There's nothing wrong with dressing slutty if that's what you like, but it's also good to see those who don't get caught in a fantasy and want more out of their TG'd experience.
