Behaviour

[Jessie]

I thought I'd pose this thought that I had. While CDed do your mannerisms change in any way? I noticed in myself if I wear a short dress or skirt and cross my legs it is only at the ankles. Whereas every other time I when I wear jeans I cross on the thigh. Can anyone else think of things that CDing may have changed in you verses say what you may do everywhere?

You may need to think about this one for a while before answering. It took me several weeks to even realize I had two different behaviours.

Jessie

[Allena]

I find that while "dressed up", my mannerisms and posture do change somewhat.
I've crossed my legs at the knee for a long time so I still do that.
But now, I let my arms and hands drape across my body instead of actually holding them in a certain position. Thinking about it more, I guess I have had a habit of "posing male" all my life. I learned a long time ago about the "limp-wrist" look that identified "Queers and Fags" (at least to us West Texas Redneck boys).
So from that, I always made sure I wasn't posing in a queer way.

This got so bad that when I was living in Long Beach, California in the '80s while going to school, I finally imploded from all the "homophobia" inside me.
I found out that the apartment I shared with several of the other guys at school was on the opposite side of the block from Broadway Street(or BroadGay street as the landlord joked about...definite homophobe).
For the next several weeks, whenever I would venture out for a walk, I was SO CONSCIOUS of how I was walking, how I held my jacket in my hands, how I stood, basically every body movement I made, because I wasn't sure if I was "SENDING MESSAGES" to the Gay guys.

I finally relaxed there, but once I was back in bluecollar land, my mannerisms bacame a focus again...albeit less of a concern.

Now, I'm finding that even not dressed, I am not so worried anymore.

Now, what was the question again?

I will be checking out the various books and videos on acting and talking like a woman. I love to read and watch "educational" tapes. I'm interested in the difference between Males posing and Females posing.

This is a nice topic to discuss, thanks Jessie!

[SharonRose]

I have noticed that sometimes when I am in male mode, for example, at the office, I will cross my legs at the knee and hold my arms in my lap in a feminine manner. This seems to come more naturally now than in the past, and I have to make a conscious effort to rearrange myself.

[Charlene]

I have better posture when I dressed.

[Jessie]

I just thought of something else. I sometimes do, I am not sure whether or not I do it purposely, but I sometimes walk by throwing out my hips if you can understand.

Jessie