when I found out that I loved feminine things

[Barbra]

Hi Donna T,
My wife has only seen Brabra one time and she did not care for that at all. As far as dressing in front of her, she is o.k. with everything except a bra and dress. Maybe it is because my brest are almost as large as hers. I have never done or taken anything to enlarge them. They have always been large but since health problems has caused my body to stop producing male hormones they have begun to grow pretty rapidly and now the are quite large. The doctors don't want to give me hormone treatment because I have had open heart surgery in December.

[Barbra]

Hi Elandra,
My wife knowsabout this site but she doesn't care for computers. If she wants something looked up on the computer she asks me to do it for her.
Bobbie

[Barbra]

Hi Kristen,
Sorry to hear about your wife. My wife and I have been together for a very long time and I wouldn't want to loose her.
As for as my night out, That support group meets every third Saturday of the month so I plan to go again this month. Not for the meeting as much as for just being out.
Bobbie

[Barbra]

It has been a long time since I posted on this forum. Just thought I would let you know that I am still around. Things are much better since I last posted, and hopefully getting better as time goes by.
Barbra

[DonnaT]

Welcome back Barbra.

I assume you are talking about how your wife is handling it?

[Barbra]

Yes DonnaT, I am talking about the way my wife responds now. Things have really improved over the last few months. I buy things when she is with me, but keep in mind that I also buy things for her without buying for myself sometimes. She has seen me dressed a lot of times and most of the time I am wearing shoes,pantyhose,panties, sweatshirt and ladie's pants at home. I very seldom wear a dress or skirt when she is around but sometimes I do. I think the main thing is to let her know that she is SPECIAL in my life and always has been. I have also learned to let her have some control over the way I dress. Slowly but surely we are working things out. Most of all, I want her in my life always.
Barbra

[DonnaT]

That's great Barbra, I'm very happy for you both.

[Bernice]

I'm sorry I missed this thread the first time around.

I mostly want to say something along the lines of "megadittoes" to what the rest of the ladies here have already said.

I was fortunate that I realized my CDing long before meeting my wife, and told her about it before allowing us to get serious as a couple. Married nearly 30 years ago, I cannot imagine how I could have had the good judgement to do as I did without just dumb luck.

My wife does not remember the first time I told her. She is supportive, but does not promote the lifestyle. She would rather Bernice stay home, and would rather that Bernice not dress around her. However, we did have our struggles. The issue was when she would come home unexpectedly. I finally came to accept that she was really OK with discovering Bernice, as long as I would return to male clothing reasonably promptly after her coming home. This has worked remarkably well. She will even shop with me sometimes. We can even share our clothing.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Barbra]

I knew long before we were married but I was ashamed to tell anyone, especially my wife. I kept it strictly in the closet for many, many years. Come Agust of this year we will have been married 50 wonderful years. We grew up together, went to school together, she was the first girl I ever kissed, the first girl I dated and the only girl I ever cared about, but I managed to keep this from her. Now I'm sorry that I did. I feel that she may have been a little more sympathetic. But that is past history and now all I can do is move on to the next level. She is a wonderful, loving person and she does seem to understand but I will never force anything on her. She sometimes gives me small feminine things as though she enjoys it. Yesterday she gave me a beautiful watch and the other day she gave ma a bracelet. I believe that better things are to come but I will wait and let it be when she she wants to.
Does this make sense?

[Alana]

Hi Barbra, welcome to the forum.

I'm in much the same boat as you. My wife is aware of my crossdressing, but isn't accepting of it. Kind of a don't ask, don't tell situation.

I don't know if you have shared any books or articles on crossdressing with your wife. If not, it may help. There are several books that may be helpful.

When I last discussed my crossdressing with my wife, I didn't have anything (articles, books, etc.) to help her understand. However, just the other day, I got a copy of JoAnne Roberts' book Coping With a Crossdresser. It appears to have some good ideas for explanations and discussions. I plan to give it to her to read and then discuss things with her. I'm hoping that will help her understand more and allow me to be more free to express my feminine self. Any way, I plan to try and keep the communication going.

I'm glad your wife is starting to be more accepting. Like many of the sisters have told me and others, take it one small step at a time. Good luck!

Alana

[Barbra]

Hi Alana,
As I said before, things are much better now than before. Both of us are much more open with it. At home I pretty much wear what I want to. I have been wearing panties and a bra for about three days constantly now. Even shoping.
She seems to understand a lot more now and I do share positive things that I can find with her. She lets me buy whatever I want when we go shopping. Of course I keep it to a minimum. I have bought dresses when she was with but she doesn't like for me to wear them when she is around. I can wear women's Jeans or pants and she doesn't mind but no blouse, only sweat shirts. But, as I said, things are much better now.
Thanks for your reply.
Barbra

[Carol Ann]

Barbra;
First of all let me say congregation for 50 years of marriage
I guess I'm a youngster at only 42 years of marriage. I just wanted to say
when I first came out to my wife all hell broke loose and she would throw my things at me then go to her room and cry. After two weeks in the dog house
she sat me down and said she was sorry that no matter what cloths I'm wearing I'm still the same man she married. Given enough time and not pushing it I believe your wife will come to terms with Barbra as you said she has given you a present or two for Barbra. Remember too she may have a few rules about your dressing as mine does,so hang in there Carol Ann

[Barbra]

Thanks Carol Ann,
As I said before, things are beginning to look a lot better for me. She tells me often that she loves me a nd I am beginning to wear a bra around the house, in fact I have been wearing one for 4 days now. I even wear one when I go shopping. I hav been wearing shoes at home for a long time now and panties. She has seen me in a dress or skirt and blouse but she lets me know that she doesn't care for that. She has encourged me to buy shoes when she is with me. The biggest problem for me is that we travel quite often and I still can't go out fully dressed. But that too will change I hope.
Thanks for your reply, I love to hear from other CD,s because I believe we can all help each other.
Barbra

[Barbra]

Back again! It's been a long time again since I was here but maybe this time I won't be gone so long. Maybe. Let me hear from some of you ladies. If any of you remember Katie (SO), I sure would like to hear from her. We used to corospond regularly but when I was in Augusta I lost touch and have not heard from her since. Any way Hi Everybody!!!

[Barbra]

In the last post the (so's) name was misspelled. I should have been Katie.