We finally talked and God is it good

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:32 am

Wasn't sure where to post this, much of my ranting and worring has been done on the GG section so to those who know about the silence and what it as doing to me /us/ our relationship sorry but the GM's have given me/us/our relationship so much support thought it was only fair to share it with everybody.

After six weeks of almost silence on his part we finally talked on Fri --- (I had had my I don't give a f**k head on for a few days) I couldn't take any more of his silence and basically I had got to the stage where I was saying okay have your fun if you want, but I am entitled to mine as well and if your not willing to talk/share then bu***r it I WILL have some fun and if it dosen't include you that's your fault not mine. Upshot we passed a few snarls on thur night, fri morning still saw me not happy however he did manage to get me to sit down and talk to him ( I tend to go into clean mode when I am mad at him - works wonders on the house

) we looked through some posts on here and another site, we really talked and guess what
I freaked him cos I didn't freak (go figure), he also thought I was trying to force him into dressing cause I bought him things !!!!!!!! (in my defence I was trying to show him my support by making it easier for him).
He also said that he had trouble getting his head round the fact that I didn't freak, didn't go running off to tell everybody what a weirdo he was , that somebody else now knew about his dressing and didn't consider him a perv, and that not only was I okay with him dressing but that I was willing to share it with him.

We went out yesterday (Sat) shopping for both him/her and me, n boy was that great, found out why some styles are better for her than others , hopefully we will be able to do it again soon but not in our home town tooooooooo conservative and boring, no choice, and thats for both of us or EBAY may be getting quite a few visits from us both together

TO EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU THANKYOU THANKYOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT, WISDOM, LOVE AND LAUGHTER. I feel a huge corner has been turned, the silence has been hopefully finally silenced and while we travel our road together it can't be a bad road to B on.
Jess (a very happy SO)

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Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:39 am

Congratulations!

-g(so)

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:42 am

there is more to share but as she is now signed up maybe she can add the other bits if not I will later

Lydia · Post by **Lydia** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 11:33 am

Hi Jess,

That was a great post ! I was delighted to read it, and thanks for keeping us up with your situation.

Personally, I am especially happy for you and Claire Jane. I hope that my comments, along with others here were of help. That's what we're here for.

Hugs from here

Lydia

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:00 pm

HI Jess--
That is a fine post to read, first thing in the morning. Keep working together.

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 5:57 pm

WOW!!!

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:01 pm

Congratulations, Jess(SO) and Claire Jane!!

And a warm welcome to Claire Jane, too - - we're glad you joined the best place in cyber space, so don't be shy!!

- SL

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:32 pm

It is amazing what a little communication will do! huh?? As you can see, we are proud of you and hope you continue to find balance in your relationship.
Please stay and participate with us and share your experience as it can help some of our sisters on their own "Magical Mystery Tour!"
Virginia

Marlena Dahlstrom · Post by **Marlena Dahlstrom** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:02 am

Congrats to the both of you! Here's the the power of communcation.

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 8:49 am

Congratulations Jess!

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:56 pm

to all, glad everybody is delighted for us (never doubted you would be anything but)

Virginia I/we are going nowhere unfortunately u got us here for the very forseeable future

Stephanie W · Post by **Stephanie W** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 6:51 pm

Congratulations Jess and Claire Jane. I'm proud of you guys. (

sob, sob - all this outpouring of emotion, I need to go get me a kleenex...AND I'm not even dressed right now)

Keep up the communication CJ (hey, another one!) and you guys will do great. You have a great gal there and you don't need me to tell you how lucky you are.

Stephanie

P.S. Hey Jess, I see you also enjoy a

...my kind of gal!!

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 10:14 pm

Stephanie W wrote:( sob, sob - all this outpouring of emotion, I need to go get me a kleenex...AND I'm not even dressed right now)

Oh, my, Stephanie - what an image!! The least you could have done was to put on a bra and panties!!

Good thing this forum doesn't feature web-cam capabilities!! Now go put on some clothes, you shameless hussy!!

Love you anyway, my friend!!

- SL

Bernice · Post by **Bernice** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 10:29 pm

Congratulations, Jess(SO) and Claire Jane!!

That is the way things are SUPPOSED TO WORK when you share your honest feelings. Pretty good, huh?

Also a great vicarious lift for me, since things haven't been so great for me lately.

Hugs,

Bernice

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 3:52 am

Bernice,
Glad that our little (:)) breakthrough has given you a lift.

Took the opportunity to trace your story back before replying to you, boy have you and your wife had a really tough time over the last year or so, I hope things are working better for you now, if not is there anything we can help with.

to you both
Jess(SO)