What do you call him/her when he is dressed

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 1:44 pm

This may seem a silly or crazy question but how do you address your dh when dressed, by their fem or male name or does it vary? I know I will ask him which he prefers but is curious as to how/who decides.
Jess(so)

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 2:45 pm

I only refer to him as Maria on this forum or when talking about the crossdressing experience. Its done sort of in the third person.

Post by **DonnaT** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:11 pm

My wife has a very hard time trying to refer to me as Donna/her/she when out, and has never done so at home. I told her to use what she's comfortable with.

Gardenia_SO · Post by **Gardenia_SO** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:22 pm

Hmmm... it's kind of funny that you ask. I know his en femme name, although he's never come out and told me for some reason.

I just call him the same thing I call him when he's in drab mode: Sugar Tush!

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:42 pm

Well for me I chose the feminine name (Virginia was my mother's name and I took my grandmother's name Irene for my middle name). Those are my feminine names and I prefer --- demand that I be addressed as Virginia - I am Virginia and she is me. A lot of my sisters may not be as adament but Virginia is Virginia is Virginia! Needless to say when I am out and I am asked my name, it is Virginia. If I am home it is no different. If a ?DH? has gone as far as selecting a feminine name than I would have to assume that she would prefer to be addressed by "her name!"
Just one girl's opinion!
Virginia

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Wed Sep 13, 2006 7:57 pm

I have to agree with Virginia - if your CD took a feminine name, then he should be referred to by 'her' name while dressed - no two ways about it, IMHO!

I always refer to my CD by her femme name while she's dressed, my guy by his name when he's dressed (as it were!). He is he and she is she - even though the voice may be the same.

Don't forget: a person's name is the most important thing they own, and you are showing respect - and a form of honor and dignity - by calling that person by their given, or chosen, name.

That's this SO's thoughts!!

- SL

Penni SO · Post by **Penni SO** » Thu Sep 14, 2006 7:41 am

Hello Jess,

I call my femme by Marie,however in conversation with other CD"S and SPOUSES I often say he instead of she.

When taliking about the Chameleons I always say their name,she or ladies.
As SIlverlady said "a persons name is the most important thing they own.

Hugs penni

Loy B(SO) · Post by **Loy B(SO)** » Thu Sep 14, 2006 8:07 pm

Well, sinse my hubby doesnt really use a femme name i just call him bu his reg ol name he has a name that some people on yahoo call him but i really dont think of that as his name i guess im the oddball on this one!

Sally · Post by **Sally** » Thu Sep 14, 2006 8:35 pm

My wife always calls me by my given name, I doubt I can ever remember her using the name ‘Sally’. She says that no matter what I am or how I present, to her I’m still and always will be the person she fell in love with and married under my given birth name.

My given name does double as either male or female though, and a most commonly used form of my birth name is the brand name of a well known perfume, so she says that it’s applicable for her to use the birth name.

Kind Regards,

Sally.

Melody D (SO) · Post by **Melody D (SO)** » Thu Sep 14, 2006 9:10 pm

well my SO does not have a fem name that he uses, but since i never even use his given name anymore, unless i'm mad at him that is

. He does the same as well, it came to the point that i hate hearing my full name form him, it could only be bad news for me.

Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 6:13 am

I always call my guy by either his given name or Sugar, Baby, Honey or some variation thereof. He does use a female name in chat rooms, but I've never been actually introduced to her, so I'm not dead certain what her name is.

He says that he likes it that I always call him by his birth name. Says he likes that I always see the real him inside whatever the outside costuming might be. Works for us.

-g(so)

Lydia · Post by **Lydia** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 9:34 am

As above, my SO normally calls me Sweetie, Dear, Honey, etc. When she calls me by my male nickname, I know I am wanted for something important. If she uses my full first name, then it is a situation - she's upset about something.

She has never uses "Lydia." I am not sure if I'd recognize it.

Lydia

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:41 am

Well when we used to go out (Tri-Ess) she called me Carol. How she just calls me HON. Sometimes I wonder what she calls me under her breath

Stephanie W · Post by **Stephanie W** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 2:08 pm

When we're out and I'm dressed, my SO always uses my femme name, along with all the correct pronouns, pretty much all the time, except when she slips up occasionally. No big deal to me at all if that happens as she has known me longer in guy mode. She had a hard time in the beginning trying to remember, (bless her) but does much better now.

Personally speaking, I've always preferred to be called Stephanie and with all the correct feminine pronouns. Each to their own and whatever you're both comfortable with. As mentioned, it doesn't bother me if someone forgets - only when some jerk at a store or drive thru does it deliberately. Then it's

Stephanie

Jabbela · Post by **Jabbela** » Mon Sep 18, 2006 8:03 am

My SO mostly calls me by an abbreviation of my male pre-name and - just by cance - this version is "unisex", even more used for females. Anyway even her daughter (not really knowing about my CDing) uses the same version - often for fun, well my natural long hair (no wigs) often enough implies, that I am a woman - even, when en-drab...

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What do you call him/her when he is dressed

What do you call him/her when he is dressed

what do you call him/her when he is dressed