Well, Its over I guess!

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 8:47 am

As some of you know "Virginia" has been going through a divorce and yesterday was my (God! I can only hope! last day in court. - three times is enough!) DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT SAYING A WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I represented myself. What was it that Abe Lincoln said and I paraphrase!: " He who represents himself has a fool for an attorney!" Anyway, my wife's attorney is from the "old school." No negotiations, no sitting down and discussing anything, just lie after lie and into court and in court defend his lies with, "oh I am sorry I just misunderstood," or "you misinterpreted what I was saying!" etc. Accusations such as income tax evasion, blant disregard for court orders, being an "insane pervert!" forcing her out of the home, etc Anyway, with a bit of soothing anal ointment, I will probably survive.
For those of you who may face this unfortunate circumstance, I can only tell you how the judge that I had evidently ruled. It appears that he cared nothing about how we arrived at where we were ---all that mattered was at this very point in time who had what and how could he "equally" (in his mind) distribute the marital assets. The fact that she had no expenses, was living with her parents, was drawing $1,000 a month disablility and had contributed absolutely nothing to any type of retirement planning for 28 years, (although she had worked and had as good or better opportunities to contribute and choose not to) was totally unimportant. His only concern was the distribution of any and all marital assets that currently existed! I doubt that even being represented by counsel would have had things come out any different.
As you may or may not know my wife had and does have a "swelling of the brain" which has been going on for a minimum of three years and probably longer and in one recess yesterday, her attorney asked to speak to me alone and in the conversation he admitted that even when he sits down with her to discuss the intricasies of the distribution, she does not seem to have a clue and just drifts off into her own little world. He and I agreed on some final details and then he asked her to sit in and told her what we felt would be an "equitable" solution and she agreed and I could tell she did not have a clue. Anyway, that was presented to judge - he accepted that and it was over. Her attorney did say that I was a worthy opponent and that I had handled myself very well in the court room. Yes I did get to do some cross-examinations - the only mistake I made according to the judge was that I initially stood between he ( the judge) and the witness. He asked me to stand to one side or the other. He likes to see their eyes and body language evidently!
Anyway, it is hopefully over and I can move on with my life.
Virginia, SilverLady (as if you had not already guessed those of you who even care!) and my sisters here on the forum.
Love you all!
Virginia

Maria · Post by **Maria** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 1:02 pm

Virginia,

Hopefully this is the end of one chapter and the start of new chapter in the life of Virginia. You are Virginia and proud of it! You have provided much inspiration to others on the forum and to help others explore "The Gift" on the "Magical Mystery Tour." This forum is a wonderful place for support, and I think that you are fortunate to have SL as your SO!

Maria

Carolynn · Post by **Carolynn** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 1:59 pm

Hi Virginia. I am so sorry you had to go through all this, but at least now you do have the legal right to get on with your life. I feel sure you will make the very best of it, hon!!!

Love, Carolynn

Danette · Post by **Danette** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 6:11 pm

Hi Virginia,
Glad to here this is behind you. When mine was done I had a party and roasted a pig. And that evening I had the formal burning of the Marriage License and drank a toast to my freedom, that was 22 years ago. Where have the years gone ?

So here's to you Virginia

Hugs,
Danette

Isabelle(SO) · Post by **Isabelle(SO)** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 6:43 pm

I am a GG who was divorced in 1987 after 12 years of marriage. Nice guy, no passion. Even when there is no animosity, divorce is not a nice thing. The good news is that it frees you to move on. So go girl.

Stephanie W · Post by **Stephanie W** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 8:36 pm

Virginia

Congratulations on your accomplishment! Been a long hard road but I know you have plenty of good times ahead with your new lady...er..SilverLady. Best of luck to you both and may Virginia only enjoy happy memories from now on. I'm sure SL will make sure of that as you embark on your 'new' Magical Mystery Tour. Just stay clear of the woodshed!

Stephanie

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sat Oct 14, 2006 9:09 pm

I'm happy to hear that it's over, Virginia. Like keeping CDing a secret, there's got to be a part of your mind that was always processing the court case. Now you've got that part of you back, and Silverlady as well. So move on into the new chapter, hon.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 1:04 am

Virginia,

Congradulations, on both accounts. I kinda had it figured out anyway. I wish the two of you a most wonderful magical mystery tour, together.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Jaye · Post by **Jaye** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 1:28 am

Congrats, Virginia. Welcome back to singlehood. I am sorry that your divorce was not as amicable as mine, but I am happy that it's over.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 6:23 am

Virginia my friend,
Now maybe there will be more smiles on your face as you are free of all the BS and pain. I wish you all the best in things to come. Hay I do believe it's time to get all dolled up and celebrate, come on let's go girl.

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 7:08 am

Glad to hear it's finally concluded Virginia.

I hope you didn't have to give up too much.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 9:53 pm

I'm glad it's over Virginia. Hope things improve from now on.

Even though I know that at this point you are not happy with your ex I sorry to hear that she is in such a bad state.

Onwards!

Absaroka

Sally · Post by **Sally** » Sun Oct 15, 2006 10:55 pm

Hi Virginia,

Thankfully an unpleasant period of your life has now reached its’ conclusion and you can move on.
We can’t do anything about yesterday, but what we do today determines how good tomorrow is for us, and the only thing we get if we look back too much is a stiff neck, so I hope that you can now look to the future, and given time you can move on with your life and enjoy it to the fullest. It takes time for wounds to heal, but surround yourself with the right people and I’m sure your life will blossom.

Kind Regards and

Sally.

Marlena Dahlstrom · Post by **Marlena Dahlstrom** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 1:03 am

I'm glad you feel like you can move on finally.

Jabbela · Post by **Jabbela** » Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:50 am

Hi Virgina,

my best whishes to you. You have hopefully reached the end of an unpleasant period in your life. I am currently more or less at the starting point of this period and currently it looks like a very unpleasent journey.

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Well, Its over I guess!

Well, Its over I guess!

Virginia is on her own.

well it's over I guess.