I just came out to my friends.

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 3:02 pm

As I promised in another post I have posted an anouncement on my myspace page so here is the link http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fu ... d=56453834
It is in my blog under this is to help my mental state.

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 4:29 pm

Congratulations, Gaven! That is a wonderful post on your blog, and I hope you can find more peace by being true to yourself.

- SL

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 5:00 pm

Thanks for the kind words. It does feel as if a weight has been lifted.

Sally · Post by **Sally** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 7:05 pm

Hi Gaven,

Congratulations, you’ve removed one of the biggest ‘fences’ we surround ourselves with, and you can now begin to be truly individual and free to be yourself. Overcoming the fear of the unknown is the first step to self expression and feeling free to be able to do so, and often the hardest isn’t it, but once you’ve taken that first step you open the door to individual freedom and proving that it isn’t really just an illusion.

Revealing ourselves is rarely easy, but can be worth the effort, because no matter what fears we face or what hurdles are placed in front of us, in the end the reward is worth more than life itself, as it should have always been, and that reward is freedom, which is everyone’s basic right.

Kind Regards,

Sally.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 8:37 pm

The link goes to myspace, Gaven, but it's a blank page for me. Tried it twice. I'm glad you came out, and look forward to hearing how it goes over time.

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Sun Oct 29, 2006 10:38 pm

I am sorry about that here is what I posted.

What I am about to admit I must do for my own mental well being. I am posting this on my myspace page and to the Northwinds and St. Katherine's Yahoo groups. To those who get this more than once I am sorry. To some of the people who know me the best you already know this information so you can stop reading, to everybody else this is a hard thing to admit much less post. I am a cross dresser. I know now you all have a bunch of questions. To the first one which is always the first question any cross dresser gets asked when they admit to being a cross dresser is "are you gay"? The answer to that question is most definitely no. I cannot even fathom the idea of me being with a man. Besides that, being a homosexual does not mean you cross dress nor does being a cross dresser mean you are a homosexual. I have been cross-dressing for quite a while I first started cross-dressing seriously in middle school. How ever I have always liked the clothing of girls and women. Like most cross-dressers I noticed girls clothes were different at a very young age. When I think back on it the first time I noticed a difference was when I was about 5 years old. I was playing with a neighbor girl and she was wearing a dress and I thought that it was nice. However I did not discover how good they felt until middle school when I saw my sisters bodysuit hanging in the closet and for what ever reason I had to try it on. I snagged it that night and put it on for a little while and then took it off and hung it back up. As far as I know she did not know. Now for the next question that cross-dressers are always asked, "Do you want a sex change?" GODS NO would be that answer. I like being male and could not see myself living as a woman full time. I am however starting to wear more "women's" clothing. I have decided to phase out men's pants and stopped wearing men's underwear a long time ago. I am sure that some of you have noticed that my blue jeans were not a men's cut. For those who did not notice you need to be more observant. I am admitting this bit of information now because ever since my father died on September 11 of this year it has been on my mind constantly that I have been lying to myself and it has not helped my depression or my ability to stay on track mentally. I have more information on my geocities web page the address for that is http://www.geocities.com/gavenmclrn666

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Mon Oct 30, 2006 12:27 am

That is a brave note, Gaven. You have put it out there for all to read and try to understand. I hope you can begin to get some feedback very soon.

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Mon Oct 30, 2006 10:48 pm

Oh I have gotten great feedback. most want to go shopping with me.

Marlena Dahlstrom · Post by **Marlena Dahlstrom** » Tue Oct 31, 2006 1:42 am

Bravo!

DeeDee · Post by **DeeDee** » Wed Nov 01, 2006 12:18 am

Perhaps we feed off each other...letting it out is good, and it seems like a number of us have have lately, I'm so happy for you, Gaven. And yes..you had the mandatory first question "are you gay". Once we dismiss that and get on with our chats with "whoever", it seems to work out. Best of luck to you lol:

Stephanie W · Post by **Stephanie W** » Sat Nov 04, 2006 2:50 pm

Congratulations Gaven.

Enjoy your journey from here on in. There will be ups and downs just like a roller coaster, but then again, that can be fun too if you're into thrill rides. $\:D/$ Just hold on tight and save your money for those shopping trips. Good luck!

Stephanie

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Sat Nov 04, 2006 5:27 pm

I liked what you wrote Gaven and I loved your feedback. You have cool friends. Tell them that the folks on your CD forum are singing their praises.

Absaroka

Ed Wood · Post by **Ed Wood** » Wed Nov 29, 2006 12:56 pm

Sorry to be late in replying, but I only just caught up!

Well done!

I have this wanting to reveal nagging at me more and more, and I believe the time will come where I myself will take similar steps.

It does not worry me particularly. I am one of those people who can just get on with it and I really don't mind what people think.
I think that once I have done it I'll be dinner time conversation for a while for some people, and then like everything else, they'll move on to the latest "scandal"

Again, congrats to you!

Ed.

Dallas · Post by **Dallas** » Wed Nov 29, 2006 6:36 pm

Wow! I read it. That was quite a read. And that was very good how you were blunt and how you told some of your story. This is truely something to be proud of.

Well done!

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Thu Nov 30, 2006 12:32 am

Thank you Ed, Dallas and everyone else who posted replies.