I told her! Whew!

[Lisbeth]

Well, it finally happened! My step-daughter knows and she is fine with it all! I'm so happy I could spit.
I was giving her a ride this morning and while we were talking she said something that left the door open for me. I tried to remember what I had practiced in my head many times but couldn't remember my name at that point, so I started out with " Listen, there's something that I want to share with you but you have to promise me that it will never go anywhere else."
I looked at her and she just smiled and said,"I know all about it." It turns out that she has known for a couple of months! I guess I left enough "subtle" hints around, like a couple of lipsticks in my car and my knowledge of make-up and womens fashions. She said that she had asked her mom, my wife about the lipsticks and a few other things and my wife,bursting at the seams to talk about it couldn't hold back and told her.
I had had a feeling that they had spoken about it but I wasn't 100% sure so I never said anything. I kinda hoped that my wife would let her daughter know and that she is fine with her husband dressing up. I know that her daughter wouldn't tolerate anything that she thought would hurt her mom and rightly so but she knows it fine with it.
I'm just so excited! I'm so relieved that she knows and is actuly supportive. We've come a long way in our relationship from when I first started dating her mom. I think she really resented me taking her mom "away" from her,in a sense. The first few years were a time of adjustment for both of us filling new roles and we weren't sure how. We had our little spats but we've both come to love each other very much.

I want to write more but I have to go out. I'm so happy and excited about her support that I want to tell the only people that would understand how I feel. Thank you all for being here. More later

Lisbeth

P.S. Even though I'm all giddy I still remember the baby steps. I WILL NOT screw this up. They are my life and I am blessed to have them.

[SilverLady(SO)]

Woo, hoo!! Congratulations, Lisbeth!!

I'm sure you feel a whole lot better now that the 'huge weight' of wanting to tell your stepdaughter, and having her acceptance, has been removed from your shoulders!


- SL

[DonnaT]

That's wonderful Lisbeth!

[Tekla]

All to often, those things that we think we are hiding from everyone, are, in fact, all too clear to them. More than one time when I was young, I 'told' someone 'my big secret' and the response was "I knew that."

[Carla L]

Congrats! This is similar to my daughter finding out, a different way, but she found out and accepted me right away.

I was told to keep with the baby steps and I still am. Good luck to you. My daughter ended up seeing me dressed and it was all the better. She even helped me with putting on makeup!

[Virginia]

So happy for you, I know I am repeating what has been said, but I know it is quite a weight off your shoulders, and to have you say, "baby steps!"

Well now you can serve as a pioneer and help your other sisters that are coming along and are seeking help, understanding and advice, from the "been there done that" sorority.

Virginia

[Maria]

Congratulations Lisbeth!

One small step out of the closet, one giant leap toward support and acceptance.

Maria

[NancyDrew(SO)]

I'm so happy for you Lizbeth. We've talked many times about this and I know how fearful you were about moving beyond inuendos and clues. Was it FDR who said "we have nothing to fear but fear itself".

I'm glad you got the outcome you wanted. Now your wife, your step daughter and you can all share in this journey together. But even if your daughter had been more closed minded, that would not have negated the fact that you felt secure enough in being Lisbeth that you wanted her existance to be known.

[Lucy Michelle]

I feel happy for you and your family, your euphoria is understandable.

[Anthea]

Thats really wonderful news, I am sure it must mean something to your stepdaughter that you felt you could tell her yourself. My best wishes to you and your family.

[Lisbeth]

It's been a few days now and I'm still all happily anxious. My insecurities are such that I've asked her a few times if she was sure she was okay with the whole thing. I know by the way she laughs and tells me yes that she means it. She really is a special kind of person. We've talked a little more about my history and my ideas as to why I do what I do. She knows a lot of my background already ( Minus the femme parts) and I think that we connect in quite a few areas.

My wife and step-daughter are having a ball with this whole thing. We've never felt as close as we do right now and it's a wonderful feeling. I'm really happy and so much more at ease now that we're all on the same page. Ain't life strange?

My SD (step-daughter) said to me the other day that she would like to do my make-up and then we could go out. I was blown away by the sheer joy I felt from what she had said. She had even asked a girl at the bank where she had gotten her denim skirt. All the girl remembered was "The mall". A denim skirt has now become a private joke between the three of us. It turns out that a few months ago the three of us were at the mall and my wife knew I was looking for a denim skirt. She suggested that we try a certain store known for their sales racks. I said fine and I went one way while they went another. I thought that my wife was keeping her daughter distracted while I searched the racks. Well I found out that they were looking for the skirt too. As far as I knew back then, only my wife knew about it. I didn't know that my SD knew already. When I found this out the other day I couldn't help but laugh out loud.

That's enough for now. I just want to say thank you to all of you for your support and understanding. Thank you for sharing in my joy and excitement too.

Lisbeth

P.S. My wife just helped me pick out a new wig and she bought it for me for our anniversary! This Lady is one of a kind. I'm the luckiest girl on the block.

[SilverLady(SO)]

Congratulations, Lisbeth . . . I am sooooo happy for you!!



- SL