A wedding

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 7:53 pm

I went to a wedding of a very old and dear friend a couple of days ago. It was a lesbian wedding which was a first for me although I have been to weddings of two men before. Also it was not a wedding in the ture legal sense of the word but a committment ceremony. They will be traveling out of state on their honeymoon and having an actual legal marriage also.

It was of course a nice time to see the two of them get married, spiritually if not legally. There were a few differences-they economized by having one bridesmaid for both the brides and no best man. I guess that makes sense. The two brothers of one bride did many of the readings.

I had a few thougts about gender and orientation while looking around. One of the ministers was a woman but in a mans suit, very much a mans suit and not a woman in a tie and a coat done femininely. Also a male hair style but feminine earings. It wasn't till she spoke that I decided I thought she was famale. Also there were several guests of ambiguous gender and several women dressed very mannishly.

What was really interesting was how there was no real sexuality about any of this. Both brides were in their early fifties as were many of the guests. There seemed to be a certain matter of fact acceptance of differences of expression that made it really a non event. Maybe it comes with age or time being out.

I did have the thought about how men attired similarly in womens attire might have gotten a bit of a different reaction. But since I wanted to enjoy my friends wedding I made a conscious decision not to go there in my thinking.

The homily included some discussion of the evolution of marriage, of how at one time inter racial marriage was illegal and now that it is legal we are progressing towards same sex marriage. I had the discouraging thought that in time same sex marriages will be fine with society unless they are between people of different races. Oh well........

Absaroka

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sun Jul 08, 2007 9:19 pm

What movie>>>?? I cannot remember, but to paraphrase my point, "if you tickle us do we not laugh?; if you hurt us do we not cry?; if you prick us do we not bleed?" now we can insert "if we love do we not love?" Why, why, why is it such a big deal who we love? Oh, I know expressing it in public offends some people. Hell, nuclear bombs going off in my face offend me. We are the USA of the Offended. Why do you think there are so damn many lawyers and they even advertise, "do you walk, talk, drive, smile, breathe, blink, lay down, stand up" call us we will sue someone for you!!!!!!!

Sorry, I lost my focus. Point being, it is so unfortunate that two people who love each other can not be given the freedom to love each other.

I am glad you were able to attend this ceremony. Some would admonish the ceremony that SL and I had in Vegas. Fine, it is their prerogative, does not bother me. SL and I love each other, we talked about it, planned it, accepted the ceremony, participated in it and enjoyed it. WE enjoyed it, who the hell cares if it offends someone else who may not have even been there? It is our life, as it is with your friends and their ceremony. Be happy for them! They have found and are sharing an emotion and characteristic that sets us apart from other forms of life on this veil of tears. They have someone to turn to, to hold on to, to share with, to LOVE, something that a lot of these critics don't have and would not know what to do with it if they did.

Love you,

Virginia

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Jul 09, 2007 12:59 pm

Prick us do we not bleed is from Shakespeare, The Merchant Of Venice I believe. It's been used many other places since however and who knows perhaps was not even original with him.

Absaroka