Breaking the Secret

[Laura]

Hi Marilyn,

Wow, two years! How do you cope? Does she just allow you to go your own separate way?

To Beauty: Thanks for your comments. I will keep this board posted on updates.

Love to all,

Laura

[SharonRose]

Laura,

I recently told my SO about my crossdressing:

http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... sc&start=0

I agree with what everyone has said. Anita's comments were especially insightful. You need to give her time to process this, and I'm sure its a relief to get it off your chest (it was for me). On the other hand, she may prefer not to deal with this issue, so at some point you might want to revisit the issue.


Sharon Rose

[Beauty]

Hi Laura,

Cool!!! It will be good to read about how things are progressing.

Thanks for thinking of the board and keeping us updated. If you change your mind though, it's ok.

Beauty

[Marilyn]

Wow, two years! How do you cope? Does she just allow you to go your own separate way?

For the most part, yes. About once a month I would take a day off of work, dress up, then drive about an hour away and go shopping. (Now I know why women like shopping so much. It's such a stress reliever! )

It was hard. I would try and keep the issue away from her, because I knew she didn't want to know; but when I would say I was taking the day off she always pushed to know what I was planning to do.

Of course, then she wouldn't talk to me for three days, before gradually letting the issue drop.

It did help, though, that I was wearing lingerie 24/7. But I also expanded, and began buying women's jeans and shorts, and even two pair of pants (for work). She never said anything, because she never realized what they were. It was more than a year, before she noticed, so there was less of her anger to deal with, but...

It's a struggle. But it is much nicer that we can talk about it easier. I'm hoping to ask her to help me pick out some teeshirts, for this coming summer. One of her big concerns is my wearing something that someone will recognize as being women's, so (maybe) it will help if she helps pick out what I am going to wear. (And I may be totally off the wall with this idea, too. )

Hugs.

[Laura]

Hi all,

Thanks again for all your comments. Marilyn: I feel for you in your situation. I hope it all works out for you. It seems to be moving in the right direction. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Sharon: your girlfriend sounds really accepting. That must feel very good; I can imagine the feeling. Concerning your statement: "On the other hand, she may prefer not to deal with this issue, so at some point you might want to revisit the issue." That's the case now, but I feel like I have to give her more than a week before I bring it up again. If it gets to it, I'll suggest we go into counseling together. But, that's down the road a bit.

Hugs and kisses,

Laura