Once again, I have been reading the posts from the SO's and find that one fear shared by most is the question that comes once the CD'ing is revealed. He has gone this far, where does it end? When I told my wife, one question she had was,"Do you want to become a woman?" I would guess that this fear and unknown is rather universal and understandable under the circumstances. I do know that some who CD only wear underwear under their male clothing and others go all the way to TS so I would guess there is no pat answer. I know, that doesn't make those who read this more comfortabe. I wish I could solve all the problems between CD's and SO's but, heck, I have trouble even doing my income tax!
I'm just not smart enough to cure the world's problems.All I can tell you is that when my wife asked that question, I told her absolutely not. I want to look the part and maybe feel some of the part because a woman is the most beautiful creation on this earth. Being a man, however, makes me even more appreciative of that beauty and I sure don't want to give that up. I have been alone now for three years, retired, and have absolutely nothing stopping me from doing as I want. I am still the same as I was when she died only lonlier! I have made no attempts to become a woman and have only gone out of the house dressed a half a dozen times to parties.
My point is that when I answered my wife in the negative, she believed me. I experimented with different clothes (some looked rediculous on this fat body!!
) and with different makeup but that was all and that still is all. Most of my time is spent in shorts and a comfy top when I dress at all. I guess what I am trying to say (perhaps not well 
) is that your husband is probably not lying to you when he tells you that all he wants to do is dress. Your supporting him could actually keep him going in a direction which you can live with. Most will dress to please their SO as long as they can dress. For instance, my wife wanted nothing to do with me having a wig but she had no objection with me growing long hair which went to about two inches below the shoulder. In fact, she loved it and so did I until I got it caught in the wheel of a creeper while working on the car and layed in the driveway for about 20 minutes until I got it untangled!!! :evil: It was cut the next day!!!At this point, I have probably said enough although I don't know for sure that I have said what I really wanted to. The fear of the unknown has always been the greatest of fears. Man for ages has asked what happens when I die. There are all kinds of theories but no real answer. The same would apply to CD. Everybody (including me) has a theory of the cause and the drive behind CD'ing. No one has an answer. Just like death, we have to learn to live with it and make the best of what we have. The alternative in either case is very sad.
Once again, thank you for listening to me. I hope this helps make some people think about their situations and understand them. As for me, it has helped me get some things off my chest.
Perhaps one day.
I know what it's like to miss having a paycheck, and wondering what bill you won't pay this month. Keep your chin up girl. Be confident and act like you are choosing them, and you'll get it! Best of luck.