Well Leave it be known, I am NOT HAPPY
about the deletion and I am glad to know that I am not the only one here who is not happy about it... Below is a paste of a PM I received from a member, who I must say to, Thank You very much for your comments, they mean a lot to me. Here is the members comments
"Sharon and Shannon,
At first I was going to post this on every section of your forum because I was so mad you (or Beauty) deleted what may be the most important message of all. I didn't care if it got me removed (and still don't). That is how passionately I feel about it. But then I thought it best I send this directly to you. This is what I wrote:
We have all poured out our hearts here, telling every little thing about our deepest darkest secrets. We have bared our souls because we are struggling. This has become a place for us to be ourselves. Accept us or reject us, it doesn’t matter. We are who we are.
I don't know Shannon or Sharon, the people who made this forum possible. What I do know is all the good that has come from their efforts. SOs get to vent and their SOs get to respond. It is great therapy and only improves our relationship. I love the fact that Shannon and Sharon are human. I hate that anyone has to struggle with this but as long as we are humans on this earth, that's a fact of life.
When Shannon used this forum to vent his frustrations that was the first time I felt normal. Shannon, I thank you. But to whoever deleted the messages you have denied everyone else the opportunity to understand we are all human and that I think is selfish.
I have poured my heart out here. I felt I risked everything by putting my picture here. I was shaking at the thought of someone finding it. But I did so knowing that if I didn’t have the balls to be me, how could I expect anyone else to do it? I wish I could tell you how hard that was for me. I’m still scared it could backfire. But I look at all the pioneers of this country and none of them gave a care in the world about what anyone else thought of them. That’s the way of the pioneer.
If you look at every post I have made you will see I am trying to solve the ultimate dilemma (at least for us). I may go to my grave without having accomplished that but maybe something I said or did had a positive effect on someone else. Just the thought of this makes me happier. I believe we become better people when we concentrate on helping others more than ourselves. I know I am happier for it.
I have tried to become a pillar inside this community even though I am struggling myself. Someone has to take that role and since I’m AARP age, I’ll take it on. Hell, who knows, maybe someday there might be someone who says, “YYYYY, er, YYY, I mean YYYYY, oh what the hell! Whoever this person was, he/she was instrumental in me becoming a better person.” Not the best send off but I’ll take it.
I still envy the relationship you two have. My wife just ignores it. You did something about it and that is so honorable. When I saw the messages Shannon had written were gone my heart sank. I feel it is imperative the community sees you guys are human. That will help us all. And I can tell you, not one of the real CDs will do anything less than sympathize. That’s how we are. In fact if you lived in the area I’d have to have you over and we could all have a a great talk (Sharon and XXXXX would hit it off just great) then drink and dance. Oh yeah, we’d also get some Chicago deep-dish pizza!
Oh wow! Now I see some even better value to your creation! If you are ever in the Chicago area, look us up. I’d love to meet both of you. XXXXX and Sharon would talk until the cows come home and YYYYY and Shannon would play pool or whatever.
Thanks for listening.
YYYYY/YYY"
I hope you don't mind me sharing your thoughts with the forum, XXXXX...
Again, I am VERY NOT HAPPY with the deletion.
